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My daughter is dating a married man?
I recently found out that my 23 year old daughter is dating a married man of 40. From what I have heard, this is his second marriage, and he met his present wife when he was still in his first marriage.My daughter and this man works at the same company. I really want to write an e-mail to him, saying to stop seeing her, or else I will not only make sure that his wife finds out, but also let his work know that he is abusing his position at the company. I really want to do this, but need to know if this is a good idea or not. I am also open for suggestions of what to write to him, He is only a few years younger that myself.... Any views on this?
9 Answers
- ?Lv 49 years agoFavorite Answer
By interfering your risking falling out with your daughter, jepordising your relationship with her over a man is pointless. She is 23 and capable of making her own decisions. If you push him away or cause him grief then your also doing the same to her. You're potentially going to get him sacked and seperated in one hit and if office romance isn't allowed at their place of work then you risk your daughters job too. I can understand that you don't like the situatuon but you have to let your daughter make her own decisons and mistakes. The woman this man is currently married to knows what he's capable of and still married him...in my opinion that's her fault. You really should avoid getting involved because if it was to go wrong between your daughter and this guy then she will probably come to you where as if you cause the problem she won't and you and your daughters relationship would be ruined. You need to talk to her about how you feel and no matter what she says to you about the situation you have to accept it even if you don't agree becaue that's what mums do, you advise us daughters on decisions but you don't make them for us! :) good luck though x
- VickyLv 59 years ago
I don't think you should threaten the guy by telling him you'd let his coworkers know about his relationship with your daughter. That may put your daughter in a very awkward position and it might ruin your relationship with her for a long time.
I'd suggest for you to talk to your daughter about it first. If she doesn't listen, give her "the talk" multiple times, each time, trying to approach it at a different angle. If that still doesn't work, I'd approach the man and ask him to let go of your daughter. If this doesn't work, I'd tell him I would tell his wife. Perhaps his wife can do something about it then.
- Marissa CLv 79 years ago
I understand your concern here and your daughter very well may be setting herself up to get hurt. However, I don't think that e-mailing this man is the right approach. I think a better idea would be to discuss this with your daughter. She may disregard what you have to say, but at the very least you will have put your opinion out there and let her know that you are concerned.
- ?Lv 69 years ago
Mind your damn business. She's an adult, she's allowed to make her own (very, very poor) choices.
Yes, the whole situation will no doubt blow up in her face and leave her upset, but people have the right to make their own mistakes. Hopefully she learns from it and doesn't make the same mistake again.
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- ?Lv 79 years ago
Stephani may be right. You don't know how secure your daughter's position is. She may be relying on the sponsorship of the man she is seeing.
- Anonymous9 years ago
It might cause problems at her job if you try to interfere. Speak to her regarding the issue first.
- 9 years ago
Sorry to tell you but she an adult so you stay out of it she is not a kid anymore. She can make her own choices.
- ?Lv 69 years ago
If he is no longer paying child support just let it be. Your daughter is probably there for the money, what if he has a nice house and car, besides if she marries him and he dies she is going to inherit all of that.
- Anonymous9 years ago
alll you can do is tell your daughter what a whore she has turned out to be