What protects you from the hatred you have toward certain other people?

Longwinded musings on the topic alert: Skip it if you don't like long answers ;)

Being honest with myself when I feel the emotion of hate, I recognize that I must be in control of it.

I openly admit to a gut feeling of hate to anyone who displays bigotry, and many forms of malicious behavior to harm others, especially if directed to those who are most unable to protect themselves: children, animals, handicapped, elderly.

I know that many other people of other religions or who have no religion have their own methods of dealing with hatred that can work for them, but for me, what works is to rely upon the ethical precepts ( and practice them) that I grew up learning from Judaism.

There is commadment in the book of Leviticus that requires Jews not to hold a grudge. That is an obligation for us not to harbor hatreds. Holding hatreds and grudges is self-destructive and allows the person who hurt you to continue to exert power over you, and perhaps inspire you to act out in rash emotionalism or do things you would later regret. One is not obligated to forgive an unrepentant person in order to satisfy the obligation to not bear a grudge. Forgiveness is reserved for those who are sincerely repentant.

Often the display of hostility toward others is a dysfunctional form of them trying to rid themselves and give another those feelings. I refuse to give any other person that sort of power over my will and my serenity. I refuse to take on in myself the behaviors I find repugnant in others. Through focusing on the fact that you are accountable for your own thoughts and actions, you can learn not to bear a grudge and harbor resentment to the unrepentant and how to better cope with reality without feeling that you are forced to try to forget and forgive those who have not been accountable for their acts to you.

This isn't something that happens overnight and as we're all human, we each find times in our lives that our emotions may master our intellect and will.

The Torah teaches the Jewish people that real forgiveness involves the person who has done something wrong owning up to the wrong deed, making amends, expressing regret, vowing never to do it again and seeking restitution. That is an enormous responsibility of accountability.

There can be no real justice without mercy and no real mercy without justice

I work to master my hatred for bigots and abusers, but I will never stop standing against them.

What I believe I am obligated to do by the dictates of my faith and I shall try to do to the best of my ability is to focus on my own shortcomings, to make amends wherever possible and to seek forgiveness for myself and then ask it from God. I am obligated to forgive those who come to me who are sincere in seeking pardon and who make amends for any offence done to me. I work on getting my own affairs in order and focus on the people whose lives directly touch my own. I do my best, and leave the rest to God.

I see this q was asked 4 days ago..I saw it on a list from a contact. Hope you didn't have a hangover!

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The world is full of things to hate and I don't think alcohol is going to protect you from it.

Be grateful for all you have to love! That is also one of the best ways to protect you from hatred overcoming your life.

I also remain focused in gratitude that I do not possess obsessive hatreds and that I've much more love in every day living than any hatred I encounter. I also promised myself something almost a decade ago, that when the time came that I encountered more hatred in communications online than felicity, that's when it would be time for me to bow out.

Despite the escalations of hatred and harmful behaviors I see, and adult cyberbullying out the wazoo...I'm still so grateful that I've met hundreds of people from ALL over the world that I connect to in friendship ..often despite very huge differences of faith and political views.

Shalom and good luck with whatever issues you've got going on

you should take a women's history course, considering the lack of womens history in your average high school course barely anything is talked about, are you aware that women did not have control over their bodies could not get birth control could not protect themselves in this manner. They would be having kids for roughly 15 years considering the marriage age was around 22, abortion was illegal as if what a person does or doesnt do to such a big decision in their life is of anybody else's interest, once married they were considered the property of men and expected to oblige to his every desire and need. other things to consider: slaves were given the right to vote before women clearly stated in the 14th amendment, women had to fight for that right while maintaining a household considering the husbands were at war and they succeeded, men naturally had these rights. They got paid so little that they could not sustain a household and many places would not allow a child present, considering a babysitter costs money it was a nearly impossible situation, considering we still get paid 75 cents for every mans dollar considering how woman just recently have breached higher positions in government you be the judge. Even the bible oppresses women, even the constitution did not mention women its always ''He'' or ''man'', considering we've had to fight for the rights that men have had for years something that should just be given to ever person, do you think there was only men in the holocaust or that there were no women african slaves, men did get a bad treatment themselves if they were of a different race but this in no way diminishes the struggles women have had

Being able to see past the pain and harm done to you by this person and being able to see that this person is still a child of God. Look into it. They may just be going through a difficult time in their life or may be facing something within themselves. They are probably taking out their frustrations on everyone else.

By feeling the presence of God in all beings, we can avoid the hatred towards others.

I can only think of a couple of people that I would say I hate. The vast majority of people, even the ones who immensely irritate me, I don't hate, but I do not care about them. To hate, I would have to be invested in people, and I am certainly not that.

Empathy.

I would say intellectual superiority, but then it's a curse because ignorance is bliss I have heard . . . lol

But seriously,

I have no protection--or at least not enough. And I can't avoid them as much as I'd like. Any strategies or remedies would be greatly appreciated . . . : ) lol

I don't hate anyone, seriously.

enjoy your brandy :)

Love

Hope

Distance.

Yes, I know of whom you refer. I've had hoards of them after me before and they were extremely effective at what they did. Oddly enough, I think they've grown tired of me, so it's not happening hardly at all anymore. Take it as a medal of honoUr that you are successfully p1ssing some folk royally. Small minds are easily p1ssed off.

I'm a 1/2 hour away from my first cocktail myself, so watch for some dark, drunk posting from me, Sweetie.

'-)

Questions from Poes like Mort make me remember they can not help themselves.