Men....could you raise and love a child that wasn't "yours"?

did that

now I'm a grandfather

I have a daughter who is 20 months old, I am not with her father because he is not a very nice person which didn't fully show itself until after I had my baby. I now have a new partner and he is brilliant with my daughter :-) he may not love her yet and we have sworn he will not replace her father but he will be like a father to her, if things continue the way the are then he will be a better father than her actual dad, he never bonded with her or made any effort, while my new partner does everything plays with her, has great fun :-)

I think your brothers doing something great, if only he had met her sooner baby could have been biologically his to. Is great how he will be there for her and the baby. If there were more like him world would be nicer place.

I think your brother is more of a man than any of those friends or people telling him not too. It's your brother's and his girlfriend's decision and everyone else should support him in his decision. There should be more men and people out there like your brother. Children are precious and innocent and each child deserve two parents, no matter how they come into their life. That baby is not someone else's baby. That baby is his girlfriend's baby, it's not another man's baby. My daughter's father walked out on me and her the second I told him I was pregnant. I met my husband when my daughter was 6 years old and he's been the best father to her than her bio one could ever be. He never wanted kids until he met her and now we are having baby number 3. He has never treaated her any different nor his family. He gave her his last name and I never asked him to do any of it. His parents wanted her to have their name because they said she was theirs. I think your brother is in a bette rsituation than other people. There is no drama and nothing standing in the way of them being a family and no one causing problems. Hats off to your brother. He is the kind of man I want my son to be. You should be very proud of him.

Im not a man but I have 2 children whos father isnt around very much and have been in a new relationship for 3 years... my partner was there when my son was a baby he saw his first steps heard his first words and fed him a few times, even changed his nappy, he treats them like any man would treat his own kids, he baths them and reads to them and plays with them. We are planning our own baby together soon and I was talking to him about this earlier... I think that because we waited so long and gave ourselves enough time to bond as a family it is okay for us, I think if we had rushed into things maybe he would have treated his baby different... of course he will always love his own child more but what he has with my children is very close to fatherly love anyway

I think many men can bring up another mans baby. Maybe because there is not going to be a birth father in the background it may be easier. I always say i have 5 grand children, none of them are biologically my grand children as they are my step children's babies. I love those kids with all my heart and doubt i could love them anymore if they were babies from my birth children. If anyone saw me with my grandchildren they would never guess there is no blood link. They are however a blood link to my daughters.

good luck to your brother

Sorry, but no. I applaud to those who stood up to the plate and there efforts to raise and love a child that belongs to another. In my view and opinion, i would not raise someone that is not mine nor would i ever have or keep a relationship with the mother simply because if i want to have a family and raise a baby, i want to be the one for everything. Sure its joyous to raise a child, but nothing is more beautiful than raising a child that you and the mother created yourselves. All the sacrifices you and your lover made to have the first child has alot more meaning than just falling in love with someone and excepting the kids that has been made by someone else.

My wife has 2 kids from a previous marriage and I chose to adopt them so they could have a father figure. I love them them as if they were my own. Fyi I have 2 kids from a previous marriage also

Uh, well taking that its impossible for me to get a girl pregnant or I might have a husband when im older, Id be perfectly fine having a kid thats not biologically mine since im going to adopt.

I mean, my momma raised me and loves me as her own and I love her but im not her biological kid. (she started taking care of me since I was 5 when my bio-mom decided to peave me and my dad and be a drunk deadbeat)

Ive asked myself the same question and I sony think I could but then again every child deserves a dad its not their fault. So I honestly think it would have to come to it before I honestly could say yes out no.

They've known each other for two months, and he's already planning to propose? Oy vey.

No. I don't want another men's leftovers. I will only love a child if it was mine.

I'm not gonna raise a child who is not mine.