Men: how would you feel if a girl,?

OK, just to give you a lil background on myself, I'm a man in my early 40's. I'm quite big, not the biggest guy, but typically much bigger than most females, I'm 6'1", 250+ lbs., worked manual labor most of my life even as a youth so I'm rather strong. Next I was raised to have a healthy respect for females, so I've NEVER hit a female in anger, or because of anger.(NEVER hit a female AT ALL, cept for like "play fighting") But needless to say, I should guess, I could probably physically abuse just about any female. With all that stated, I'll answer your questions individually.

1 -what would you do if a girl was scared of you?

Well my intentions have never been to have a female scared of me, & I don't ever intend any to either. I just expect them to at least respect me, as I respect them.

2-can you tell/sense when a girls intimidated,frightened,nervous,scared? (and If so how could you tell, and hiw would you act towards her? Would you make her feel safe, would you back off?)

I would never want any female to feel "intimidated, frightened, or scared" of me. As I've stated, I desire to be respected tho, but that doesn't always seem to happen tho. And more often than not, I seem to think that most females I've been involved with, "sense" that about me & tend to take advantage of that, because maybe they think that's a weakness in me. So if a female felt any of those sorts of ways, then I would know almost immediately that I WAS doing something wrong, NOT her!!!

3-how do you feel about "men" who "ABUSE" woman (I understand men aren't the only abusers it's just I have bad experiandes with them I'm 15)

I think men who abuse females are just about the lowest form of people, the only ones lower are those who abuse/molest children. But neither are worth much in my book! (I also believe the "death penalty should be an acceptable punishment for child molesters, as well)

4-do you ever feel bad about being the stronger superior? That you can easily kill a woman if you wanted? What does it feel like to be superior.

I don't really consider myself "superior" to females, yes I may be physically stronger, but that doesn't factor into the idea of being "superior", for me anyways. And I would never kill a female, eventho I've had those thoughts before, concerning my abusive ex-wife!

5-would you ever rape, murder, torture, abuse a woman? And if he answers no have you ever fantasizes about it?

NO, on both accounts !!!

And if you need someone to talk to about what you're going thru, i.e. coming out of an abusive relationship. Then I'd be happy to talk with you, because I came from one as well. My ex-wife was verbally AND physically abusive to me, & as I said, I'm NOT a "little" guy/boy, so abuse I can take, but I would rather NOT have to tho! In fact, the abuse I suffered has screwed with my head SO badly, that I've only attempted ONE relationship since my divorce, and I've been divorced for OVER 10 yrs. now. So if ya need someone to talk to concerning your fears/worries or whatever, then write me! I'm an adult, but abuse can take it's toll on ANYBODY!!! I know it did for me, & I'd hate to see ANYBODY, especially a young girl such as yourself, have to deal with abuse like I had to!

Write me at:

TheeRaunchyMann@yahoo.com

If you'd like to discuss this further! Because not ALL guys are "bad" or however you think of us!!!

~ Thee Raunchy Mann ~

*OH, & don't let the ID fool ya, I'm really a nice guy!!! I'll explain the meaning behind the ID, if ya write me!!! But KEEP yourself safe, dear!!!

1.what would you do if a girl was scared of you?

hmm....well, I'd first smile and assure her that there's nothing to be afraid. Then, I'd try to make her feel safe.

2.can you tell/sense when a girls intimidated,frightened,nervous,scared? (and If so how could you tell, and how would you act towards her? Would you make her feel safe, would you back off?)

Yeah, not a woman but if anyone's afraid we all(almost) sense that. Shyness, nervousness and facial expressions, how they talk that's how we get to know that they are scared.

Well, my reaction would depend on the situation. If she's someone I know and someone close, It can just be a smile and some reassuring words or it can go up to hugging depending on the situation.

But if she's someone I don't know much, I might back off and only help if her if she asks me to. I cannot go up to her cause its her personal choice to ask for my help. Plus, if she doesn't know me much, it could make the situation more awkward too.

3.how do you feel about "men" who "ABUSE" women.

I feel pity for those who are not fortunate enough to gain respect and enjoy the love of a woman.

do you ever feel bad about being the stronger superior? That you can easily kill a woman if you wanted? What does it feel like to be superior

No I don't fell bad about it. It's true that we are physically stronger than woman. But, if a man understands, respects & loves a woman truly he will never try to dominate her forcefully. He will treat his woman equally.

well, to be honest, I like to make my girl feel safe when she's with me. (that's what my ex wanted. whenever she was afraid, she'd come to me and cuddle.)

4.would you ever rape, murder, torture, abuse a woman? And if he answers no have you ever fantasizes about it?

no. again no. noone with a brain and some intelligence would ever do those.

I'm 18. All men are not abusive. There are lot of good ones who know how to treat a woman with respect.

I think you should seek professional advice. It's nothing to be shy, it's not your fault. You're afraid of men because you've been abused by some idiots but that does not mean that all are like that and you should be afraid of them. Tc :)

If i notice that i am being Intimidating towards a girl i will do my best to fix that. Women are not here for us to abuse, they are here to help and for us to love. No matter what a guy says he should never have to hit, be verbally abusive or what not. I can tell if a girl is scared by her body language. They normally will act distant and not want to be close. A man who abuses is not a man at all. He is a coward who needs to get his *** kicked and then locked up. And no superiority is a gift that should be used only in need of protecting. Never for overpowering. A true man should never feel like he is in "power", because if he cares about the woman in question than he should be respectful and caring abut her needs before his own. And the question of Rape, Murder, Torture, or abuse. There ain't a chance in Hell that i would. No one should have to go though that. Sex is an amazing thing that God has given us. It is not something one should just take form someone. I know that i do not know who you are but just form the fact that you asked this question i know that you want better and i hope that this has helped. If you want to fix something than fix it, don't give in to temptation or false promises.

Psalms 18:2 & Mark 12:30

I was sexually abused as a child, not raped but abused. I never thought it would be a problem because I'm a very simple person and I think "not a big deal" for a lot of things. Just this past year it started effecting me and I noticed all my relationships have been effected by this "small" thing that I thought wasn't a big deal. I grew up with a lot of sexual abuse, never really stopped.. so much that when a guy wanted to go further with me I never had the ability to say "no". Now I have issues in relationships and while I am intimate with my amazing boyfriend it hurts physically A LOT because I'm so scared of sex because of my childhood even though I love it I can't make it stop being painful.. I researched a lot about it and I feel better knowing that I'm not the only girl whose going or been through this. I'm going to start going to a therapist, hopefully they can help. It seems like you should try going to one too. Going to a therapist isn't something we should be ashamed about, we should be proud that we are trying to fix the mistakes that others have made in our lives that are OBVIOUSLY not our fault. Keep your head up and just keep in mind that someone is going through a very similar situation.

Age 18

(1)

Im not sure why a woman would be scared of me but i would try and show her that i would never do anything to harm her.

(2)

Iv only really seen a woman scared and frightened once and i ended up in a fist fight with the dude who was causing it.

(3)

Trick question "MEN" don't abuse woman only a coward would do such a thing.

(4)

Well i have never been in a situation were this is really relevant so i guess i cant answer that sorry.

(5)

No i would never do any of those its just not me. I would probs have thought it but i would NEVER do it.

I just hope the pieces of $#!+ that done any of this to you get what they deserve

Well I'm 19. I'm a pretty big guy (6'1" and 230 lbs) and I have dated a girl before that at first was a little intimidated by me. In which case I just smiled as much as I could and be gentle and sweet. And yeah I can tell although its pretty rare and usually only when a girl has been in an abusive relationship before. and if you back off it usually makes them feel like they're damaged goods or they just have too many issues for you. that's a bad idea. I was just always as sweet as i could be towards them. And men who abuse women should have their balls chopped off. There's no use for a man that would lay a hand on a woman. No i don't feel bad that i'm bigger and stronger. It's just the way I am and i can't help it. but i can use it for good and not bad. and no I would never lay a hand on a woman in a malicious way.

usually those who abuse have problems with themselves and are very unconscious of behavior in general, and are often very weak emotionally, which is why they find power play effective from what I have seen, i'm not a psychologist. However, I know domestic abuse isn't as easy to escape since police aren't bodyguards.

If a woman was afraid of me, I probably wouldn't know it, personally, but I am decent, I always try to mend relationships if I can, or end them if they just hurt myself and/or the other person.

Men do NOT have the sense that women have to detect body language. It is fact, so I always keep that in mind as a man, and I always hope that women understand, words work better to convey a message. Fear could be misunderstood as disgust, scorn, and the like. However in extreme cases, it is obvious.

men who abuse, usually, as I said before, had issues themselves. You CANNOT fix them, so don't try. Only if a person is willing and determined can they fix their behaviors and resolve past issues.

superiority doesn't equate ability to murder. However societies spanning time have given praise to the winner, the superior. Equal relationships are the only good ones for both parties, having a superior only means one person gets what they want and the other is subserviant.

no, but I want to beat up stupid people in the world sometimes, but not based on who they were born as.

You seem confused, so I will attribute that to lack of knowing what to do. There are people you should be able to speak with who can help you. As a teenager, you are relatively safe to escape a relationship. Parents, and government like schools and police/fire departments are always good places to go if you need serious help. Talk to a school principal, parent, or officer about how to proceed. But as you are a kid, its easier to break up with that person in a public place, and make sure someone is there to protect you and give you a ride to their house until a day or so goes by, then return home to avoid the abuser. I am assuming the man in your life is super abusive although this may not be the case. Anyhow good luck.

Man this sounds like a really bad situation you've been through. Holy Sh!t.

If any guy is making you feel that way something is EXTREMELY wrong and you should immediately call the police. It is both good for you and for him. Anybody who abuses women like that has no right to be within a mile of a woman. He deserves to be locked away in a psychological ward where they keep him on some serious meds and monitored 24/7.

There are people in this world that kill themselves because no woman has ever connected with them. Some people are hopeless and will never get married. Any guy that has had the privelige of connecting with a woman as a g/f, fiancee, or wife is blessed beyond measure and they should never take that for granted. To inflict any kind of mistreatment should automatically be unthinkable. Anybody who does clearly isn't thankful and deserves to be punished by God forever and ever.

Take that guy to court. He deserves jailtime at the very minimum.

Wow treading on very dangerous ground here.

I am presuming this is about you.

Firstly let me assure you NO ONE evr has any right to Intimidate or abuse another person no matter what the age or circumstance and especially if there is a significant age difference. Like when you were only 15. Thats devistating to ones self esteem and EGO!

So lets proceed slowly and with respect.

-what would you do if a girl was scared of you?

Gently try to discuss why. If told she is not or doesn't want to discuss to it is none of my business and back off, but offer to chat anytime about it.

-can you tell/sense when a girls intimidated,frightened,nervous,scared? (and If so how could you tell, and hiw would you act towards her? Would you make her feel safe, would you back off?)

Anyone really can sense this in another person. They become shy, non talkative and nervous.

How to act towards her depends on the situation and the circumstances a lot. As an adult you must back off and offer guidance if she wants it. Dangers here are moral as well a legal.

If of the same age roughly, do all you can do to make her feel safe in an environment that induces this as well. Public settings are best where you can still chat privately.

-how do you feel about "men" who "ABUSE" woman (I understand men aren't the only abusers it's just I have bad experiandes with them I'm 15)

No it is true men are not the only abusers. Both sexes can and do abuse verbally and sexually.

As I said above NO ONE has the right to abuse! My opinion of abusers is that they have problems themselves and I hold them in a very low opinion level. They should be seeking help themselves.

Damn even in a work place this is not tolerated!

-do you ever feel bad about being the stronger superior? That you can easily kill a woman if you wanted? What does it feel like to be superior

Being superior in any situation be it older / younger, boss/ employee etc is a power rush to some but that rush doesn't make a good parent/boss/ friend. Being treated as a total equal in life with respect for personal space and respect is the sign of leadership and matuirity. Some of the best employers are rated on this scale in employee surveys. In personal circumstances it should be no different.

Talking about the power to kill someone because you are superior is an extremely good reason to RUN! Get help and get away from that person. Thats a legal matter regarding a threat. Avoid that person at all costs and seek help.

-would you ever rape, murder, torture, abuse a woman? And if he answers no have you ever fantasizes about it?

No and NO! I prize life and respect of others way to much to even let that cross my mind.

Age? Lets say young adult.

Sure hope this helps you. Seek others opinions and perhaps even a professional. Your thoughts show you are very troubled by this and you really should get this resolved soon before it impacts your total life and self respect.

Remember one thing about life. There is only one person to totally protect in all ways. Thats YOU!

Keep that in mind always.

Everyone has different sexual desires and stuff. I am sure there is a guy that has the same desires that you do that would go wild over you enjoying that. Some guys might be more timid around the subject while some guys may be open to anything. My boyfriend enjoys me being kinky by telling him to call me a ***** and doing things as you suggested. Men have wild ideas that pop into their heads, so i am sure you can't throw anything at them taht they havent fanatized about before!

1. Leave her alone, I've obviously done something wrong.

#2 Of course, body language, empathy. It's instinct for some to stand up for others. I would step into any situation that needed calming down.

#3 I am not superior, I would never use anything I know as an offensive weapon. Women tend to out think men with some regularity.

#4 No, of course not. Never fantasized about it either.

What a screwed up bunch of questions, I don't know what you've been through, but I am so sorry.