How many divorced people regret the divorce? I AM HAPPILY MARRIED FOR 14 YRS, BUT WAS MARRIED 13 YRS WITH 7 A?

Same situation here and many times I think we could have worked it out, but I remind myself that he blamed me for the failure of the marriage and then I found out that he had been having a year long affair at that point. He has since married her and I know that I couldn't have stayed married to someone who treated me this way; no respect. So, if he hadn't been in the affair that long, we could have worked it out, but I don't know that I regret the marriage failing because I also remind myself that I suggested counseling on numerous occasions and he didn't want the help, so how do you fix that kind of problem?

I think you already do now, since you're thinking about it. ;-) The great thing is that now you know a lot more about what you want out of a relationship, so you can do some casual dating for the fun of it, without "locking in" anyone particular. Be a good communicator, and make it clear to your dates what your goals are. Try speed-dating; it might suck, but it might be a lot of fun. I haven't tried it, but I have a suspicion that your own outlook is the greatest influence on whether you'll have fun or not, even if you have a series of dates with "losers" (they are probably actually cool people, but a cynical view will make anyone appear worse). It might be a little intimidating to get "back in the game" after such a long break, but remember: we always think things are worse in our own heads, when reality is rarely as bad as we expect. So dress it up, get out there, and shake your tailfeathers. Find some friends to go with at first if you're feeling a bit shy or whatever, but I'll bet you have a lot more self-confidence these days, having gotten to know yourself better over the years. Good luck!

i should think not nearly as many as regret their marriage.