Do you ever feel like you'll never get married?

LOL @feefee As you would say "Astagfirrullah YO! astagfirullah!"

I am in the process of getting a marriage sorted to this Cardiff girl. It is still quite far away as in our cultures it takes a while to sort this stuff out... plus I got to get my degree finished this month and cramp a full time masters course in computing forensics while they are arranging the whole thing.

It feels good that I don't have the urge to sin anymore knowing this and knowing I am going to be blessed with this beautiful religious Cardiff girl soon, she is just like me we have so much in common and the same passion.

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"@ Sahhid : Thats beautiful mashallah! I cannot wait till i get married...i hate having this urge...its like torment..."

By all means girl get married your 20. N Thanks for this question I wasn't feeling too great today been travelling a lot today and forgot about all the good things i have, but you just reminded me how lucky I was to find such a rare diamond... how lucky I am finding my other half, for Allah has made us all in pairs. I feel like I don't even deserve her sometimes... I'm talking like as if i am already married to her.... >.<

@ deniss "There is nothing wrong with dating it is normal"

In your culture you may see it as normal but we do not. I'm not the one to talk... but through my mistakes of dating I found out first hand why dating is wrong. It just brings misery, drama, temporary happiness, mischief and shame upon the family. I can give you a list of hundred of things on why it is wrong, but being bought up in a culture where teenage pregnancy is normal to you guys these days I wouldn't expect you to understand. Please avoid giving corrupt information out to other Muslim, especially those who are fighting urges.

Peace,

If you have this urge then I recommend you ask your parents to help you in your search.

If you feel your parents are not the good choice then you can turn to the following:

1) Local Imam who will assist you in finding a husband

2) Ask friends

3) Online websites (do not be ashamed of this because many have gone through this)

However, when you do talk to a man, make sure you have a mahram with you that is watching over you, he doesn't necessarily need to be listening to what you are saying...

I know good islamic brothers who are on the search. If you are interested then email me inshallah..Just let me know your preference.

Peace

EDIT: Email me on "Studentofknowledge@ymail.com". We will discuss it properly inshallah.

EDIT 2: Remember people tend to confuse patience and lazyness. If they want a job, they don't bother looking for a job and just keep making dua and saying "allah is with the patient" but no allah says you should look and he will do the rest..same with your situation..May Allah increase us all in knowledge, ameen..

Yes I do lol. As much as I'd love to be an amazing wife, I sometimes think I dont have it in me, mainly because im too picky and I think I'd have problems with everyone.. :(

but I'm just 16 :P and I do like the idea of getting married young (< 20) InshaAllah

Yeah I feel like that, for me though I intend not to ever get married. Romantic love is dead to me, I dont really get it, I have various minor mental disorders, that might be why. It seems too stressful, childish and silly, I am actually sort of glad i dont even know what it is.

Yeah, but if if i don't get married then i know that the person who deserves me has not obviously come along yet, so i will remain patient inshaAllah..

yeah yeah!! the same phrases all teenagers repeat. Mohammad pbuh advised us to fast and it really works. see the days that Mohammad pbuh was fasting> mondays and thursdays and the 13,14,15 of the Islamic calender. the solution is there. of course marriage is good ( i can't wait) but we must be patient and deal with the situation. the desires WILL NOT defeat me, i will solve it by fasting until i get my self a woman insha' Allah.

btw, women over here ask for mahar like A LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT. and eventually when we are married she says: honey, get us some meat to have barbeque!! i will say to her, well dear, your mahar mad eme in debt and i can't afford what u want, so ITS YOUR FAULT!! :O

asker:

LOL , yeah, i guess so LOL

Wanting to be with a man and wanting to get married are 2 different things.

20 years old is too young to get married, much less feel like it will never happen.

You cannot possibly want to get married “soooooooooo badly...” when you have no one in mind.

EDIT: It is 2 different things in ANYONE’s life. I am old enough to be your mother and I am married. There is nothing wrong with dating it is normal, but if you don't want to it is up to you, but do not get the 2 confused.

"If you want only one thing too much, its likely to turn out a disappointment." - Augustus McCrae

i want to get married to!!!!!

being 15 is hard. especially with these *needy* hormones, which suxs :'(

yea i do feel like that sometimes :/