What are the rules these days on who pays in a wedding?

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I say the mother and daughter want the fairy tale bridezilla affair.  The father spent big bucks on her education and a home with many vacations and I feel that the mom and bride should foot most of the bill.

my_2_cents · Accepted Answer

If the parents of the bride are still married, then for most couples, it's combined money, so dad will be paying for it too.

I strongly believe that no matter what tradition may dictate, the couple should always pay for their own wedding. If someone offers to contribute, all well and good, but they should plan the wedding they can afford on their own.

Anonymous · Answer

It used to be that the brides family paid for the entire event. Now a days, the bride & groom are paying for their own wedding. I'm of the opinion that the bride and groom should pay. If the parents want to contribute, than that is an extra bonus.

emo scratches · Answer

These days most of the wedding cost goes to the couple getting married. But traditionally it's the bride and her family that is supposed to pay for it.

jct_pp · Answer

nowadays the bride and groom pay for their wedding...family may or may not contribute. idea that brides family should pay everything is outdated!!

i am blessed and lucky in that my family and fiances family have offered significant amounts of money with no strings attached - no trying to control any aspects of the wedding. but frankly this doesnt seem common and the general idea is who pays gets to say how things are done

but there are no obligations on you if you dont want to pay for the wedding (i guess you are the father? or possibly his new wife)

La Vie Boheme · Answer

There are no rules but the only ones responsible for paying for their own party is the bride and groom.  Parents are not required to pitch in.

cjsmummy · Answer

The couple wanting to get married are the only ones expected to pay.Family may offer to help out but are under no obligation to offer any assistance.Financial assistance should never be solicited but it can be accepted graciously IF offered

? · Answer

Usually since couples getting married are older and already working couples pay most of the cost themselves.

Caroline · Answer

The responsibility falls on the bride and groom only. Anyone else can offer, but they don't have to.

CindyLu · Answer

If you are the father, I feel very sorry for the mother and the daughter.

diamondcollector · Answer

bride and groom pay the bills, dad's done.

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What are the rules these days on who pays in a wedding?

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