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I'm not in love with my girlfriend. What do I do?

I love my gf dearly. We've been in a long distance relationship almost 5 months now and there's nothing I would change (except for the distance of course). But the thing is, I don't have that 'in love' feeling towards her, whereas, she claims to be deeply in love with me. It's not that I'm afraid of being in love or anything, I just can't fall in love with her. You can't choose to be in love with somebody and I'm just not falling for her in that way. I don't want to dump her or anything, but I know I won't ever fall in love with her so idk what to do. I love our relationship but I don't think things will last forever between us. Should I just keep the relationship going as long as I can? Cause I'd rather not break up with her, at least not right now. She helps me through a lot.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
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    Of course break up.

  • 9 years ago

    You probably think you love her in a way that she helps you a lot. That's kind of like loving her like a friend or a sister. If you don't feel anything towards her, maybe you should tell her the truth and break up with her. If you ever marry her without no feeling, she can get really hurt, so you don't want that to happen. Your suppose to love a girl with all your heart. If you don't feel comfortable now, then you wait, she can draw a closer relationship with you, then get her feelings hurt. i've been this before with my ex-boyfriend. hope this helps you!

  • 9 years ago

    Dude, honestly speaking, long-dostance relationship never works out.. I understand if you are serious and all but in order to maintain the relationship, you guys need to see each other face to face.. Honestly, in many ways, this relationship is keeping you from accepting the new environment and the people around you..I am not saying that you should break up with her.. But at least talk to her about your feelings.. That way she will atleast know what is going on..

  • 9 years ago

    Through my honest opinion and experience, TRUST me, it is better if you end it now. I know that the longer you wait, the worse it gets, the more you're going to hurt her.

    Do you at least want to work it out with her? Or you absolutely believe you feel nothing for her?

    I understand she is there for you, so then ask her if ya'll can still be friends for that reason, that you love her as a friend but you are not IN love with her and you don't want to hurt her by lying to her!

    Hope this helps...

    Source(s): Going through this NOW.
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  • 9 years ago

    Tell her that you value your relationship, but would rather just be friends.

    Good luck,

    -Willow

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