Is it shallow for wanting a divorce due to my husbands weight?

If your husband is over 300lbs then get him help. It is the loving thing to do. Please attend to it. It's not a matter of "helping" him, it's a matter of saving his life.

Is he able to work? Has his weight endangered his job? Is he able to get behind the wheel of an average car? Can he find shoes and clothing online in Big/Tall without having to have his clothing specially made? Is he able to dress himself? Do you socialize in other people's homes?

My husband is in a wheelchair and can still play catch. Slowly. Fun had by all. Especially for those under 9. Does he get enough sleep? Get him outside as much as possible.

It is a deviation from the plan. And challenging beyond expectation. Which is the same thing that people say when everything seems to have gone their own way as well. hummmm

I am sorry that you suffer. Your husband must see a good doctor whether he wants to or not. Have that come first. And then have more information for your next choice.

I know that people can change their perceptions and change their lives. I know that you can laugh and sit in joy and thankfulness where so long had there been pain. Stuff happens, thing change. Sometimes even when we think they won't.

Be in charge of what you want.

Not because of his weight, unless it's killing him, but coz he doesn't cook (and you are the one working), or play with the kids, yes.

good for you. you're doing the right thing divorcing that hideous fat whale. you deserve far better than than the likes of that lazy glutton. and just think of the poor example he's setting for your son. if he's planning on eating himself to death, let him get it over with. let him do it all by his lonesome, far away so you and your kids don't have to see it.

You have to develop tough love. Do not buy or cook anything fattening. You are enabling him. Tell him that you will not stand by and watch him die. Do nothing for him. Go to an attorney, you are not divorcing him for being fat but for refusing to be a husband and father. You can not take care of an invalid. Take care of your children and yourself. He either gets help or a divorce. He must go to a doctor and perhaps a stomach band surgery is his tool. Or you pretend you are a vegetarian, and also get rid of all white food.

I'd rather be with someone nice than someone nice looking

If it's as you say and this is affecting your whole family, and you have tried everything then no. You have a child to think about, from both perspectives, which I'm sure you've done/are doing. Try some more, because it sounds like you understand he's depressed, as someone else posted, let him know he is losing his family by not being active about this. It doesn't sound like you had any notion of this happening when you got married and as an unforeseen event, it sucks, but let him know how you're feeling and if things still don't change, maybe divorce is something to pursue. Good luck.

I think it is shallow, but I think it's natural. It would be very hard to stay with someone who doesn't take care of themselves and you just aren't attracted to them anymore. So I understand how you feel, and would probably be thinking the same thing.

Yes.

When you marry someone, you vow to love them through sickness and in health, no matter what. Weight should not be a factor.

People have there reasons and if thats yours then thats fine.

If you have tried all you can to help and his weight affects how attracted you are to him, how much he does around the house etc then its fine.

Tell him to do something about his weight (with your support) before he loses you.

Maybe because he's DEPRESSED. God you sound horrible! No wonder he doesn't feel like doing anything about it.