Caught my 12 yr old daughter smoking again! What can I do?

I bet I get thumbs down for this, but.... The old fashioned way is to shut her in a small enclosed space with an ashtray and 40 cigarettes and she is not allowed out until they are all smoked. My grandmother did it to my mother and my mother did it to my brother. I'm not necessarily recommending it, but I can tell you that it worked.

There are too views for this: 1. She is just watching it, let her be it's entertainment and you need not worry about it. 2. it could seep into her subconscious that these people aren't so badly off, and if so many people are like that (and even get on tv) that it's correct. Or it could give the false impression that at here age she's mature enough to handle the responsibilty after seeing said people around her age pull it off. Though for now just keep an eye on her and limit how much she can watch it, after all you're the parent, do what you believe is best, just don't become to radical and say "No TV anymore" or something without a just cause for concern. [Oh, and take Savannah's info as well, look at how badly life can be, debt, bad schooling, annoying your classmates with your crying child, in the end you probably don't get as fulfilling education, and highschool sucks because you can't hang out with your friends. Also if she did hang out with her friends she'd leave the child alone which could then harm the child's psyche. Anyways, also take Savannah's advice]

How is she able to afford cigarettes? Surely a 12 year old doesn't have a job. Stop the allowance. And don't even give her lunch money, make her take a lunch to school.

Find and enroll her in a smoking cessation class since she claims to be hooked. Since she seems to have a hard time finding age appropriate activities, help her out. Honestly, this is where enrolling them in church, girl scouts, dance, music and such comes in handy and keep them busy and out of trouble. Check your community centers and get her enrolled in something. Spend time with her shopping and maybe take up a hobby together.

Also, its not always good to tell kids of your discretionary past.

I was literaly grounded my whole life the wsy she sees it as she's already grounded might as well make the best of it. But it isn't fair if her sister does it an doesn't get punished (if she's under 18) I'm the oldest an got grounded for every little thing an now when I go back to my parents to visit an see my sisters doing things I got abused an grounded for I get mad and confused I think to myself y? Why don't they yell or beat her? I fell like they hate me. I'm not saying its right for her to smoke 12 is really young (I have a sister that age also a 15 year old sister and I'm 19 /got kicked out at 15 got blamed for somthing I didn't do an my dad admited that he knew I didn't do it) I think maybe you should just tell your other daughter to quit also give them the gum or pach don't give them money for cigs an don't buy it for them either. Just try to talk to her first Ill do anything to have that feeling that my parents care for me.

I would tell you to make her read the book "Easyway to stop smoking" written by Allen Carr, but she wouldn't read it. So you need to read the book "How to Stop Your Child Smoking" also written by Allen Carr. I was smoking and I stop after reading the book easyway to stop smoking. I didn,t read the one for the child, but I'm sure it's just as good. That guy knows, should say knew cause he died, how cigarette addiction works and he explains it very well. It's easy to find it for free on the internet if you look at the right place.

She's got a point. Why isn't her older sister punished for smoking. They should both be finding it very hard to sit a). for smoking and b). for the attitude.

Tell her How much you love her and how bad you feel about being a mother who smoked at a young age. Tell her How bad it is, and that you love her soo much that you cant see her being hurt by it.

Maybe she will understand- sharing thoughts about it

try to talk it out or get a stick and beat the crap out of her

She might smoke bc her friends smoke.

Remove all the temptation from your house and stop smoking.