How to give daughter advice on period "etiquette"?

I really don't know the answer, but maybe it has something to do with age? My niece is 12 and she does the same things, luckily your daughter showers a lot my niece doesn't we have to force her to shower and remind her to change her pads because she will leave them on all day and bleed through her clothing before she changes them. My niece is VERY immature, her body is a lot more mature then her mind is! We have tried talking to her and tell her, thinking she might be embarrassed and do better but it doesn't work. Her mother, grandmother and her Aunt (Me) have all had these talks with her and its like she just doesn't seem to care or doesn't get it anyways. Just tell her that the "men" in the house do not want to see that and everyone doesn't have to know when she is on her period. sorry I don't have an answer for ya, I will keep checking back..maybe I can get some ideas on how to tell my niece the same thing!

Honestly, she's old enough to know better. About the whole tampon thing, either explain to her you don't want her to use tampons yet or finding smaller ones. If you walk into the bathroom and there's blood on the toilet or open pads, simply go find her and tell her she needs to clean up her mess, wait five to ten minutes and then casually check to see if she's done it, if not tell her she needs to do it right now. Perhaps she isn't doing it because she knows you will. And as for putting her bloody dirty towels back on the rack, explain to her that she's not a child, she knows better than to do that and needs to stop, if she doesn't there will be some sort of punishment.

When you find a mess in the bathroom, just tell her, how would she feel if she walked into the bathroom and someone else's blood was on the toilet or towel and there was open pads in the trash? Ask her how she would feel if a guest used the bathroom and saw the blood and knew or assumed it was her who did it? Mostly I would just stress the point that she's not a child and it's not acceptable to act that way.

She is being a brat,

Tell her straight that she will clean up after herself and if she doesn't then your not going to do it and she can risk her father/guests seeing her blood everywhere.

If she ruins a towel, It can come out of her allowance, If she keeps wasting your tampons/pads then she can pay for her own, If she gets blood on the toilet then she has to clean it.

Be firm.

Well, since she's 12, she obviously has insecurities and is self-conscious. So, remind her that if she doesn't clean up, she'll be embarrassed by it in front of her friends and family. If she still doesn't do it, let her suffer the consequences.

I would have been mortified to do those things when I was 12 (and still today)!

I think she needs to be told that her habits are disgusting and she needs to change what she is doing. Telling her nicely is obviously not working. Good luck.

I don't actually believe any of this. You've parented her for 12 years, so what do you normally do when she ignores instructions and leaves a mess?

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Um ewie

But keep telling her and warn her that if she keeps up her nasty habits that your gonna have to have a serious, embarrassing talk with her