Why does my wife make it so hard to ask her for help ?

Wow, I'm not trying to be mean but I'm really grateful now that my husband and I have shared funds... My paycheck goes into a bank account and his does too. We both pull out 100 that we can spend without talking to the other but the rest is for important stuff.

it's really not a bad system. I would (Unfortunately) get through the rest of this rough patch and then talk to her about how having your finances shared would be a good idea, just to keep imbalances like this from happening. Because it's really not fair that you took care of her when she didn't work and she's going to guilt you for needing your car repaired.

Ask her how she thinks that is a marriage. Ask her how she thinks that is being a supportive wife. I always think men hide a lot from their wives about money issues because they don't want to worry them. But you bloody should!!!! What are they pathetic wall flowers I don't think so. Tell her if she didn't want to share in financial issues she should have left marriage to the grown ups.

Just go really quiet and when she asks what's wrong just you're seeing her in a very different light. Tell her you feel you're the one who has to be supportive both for yourself AND her when the chips are down. And in answer to get question "oh so you think I owe you then?" - err YES YOU DO!!!!!!!

Good luck mate :)

Your wife hates that you ask her for money. Yep even though you are her husband. I hate when my husband asks me for money, because I never ask him for money, unless its for a bill for the house. He asks for money for personal stuff. However I would say that if his car broke down I would help him and I wouldn't be going all crazy about it.

In the beginning of your relationship, you two did not establish that you guys are a partnership. You are married, but you two are still separate.

Tell your wife that you would like to discuss a financial future with her, but the way she acts about money makes you question it, and other things (don't specify what).

She will probably ask "what other things". Just look at her blankly and say...again.."other things".

Then say nothing. Unless she is a cold hearted bych who got with you for money, she will come to you and engage conversation. Yes this is a head game, but women play games all the time.

Do understand the stress women go through, but sit down with her and tell her how you really feel about the money, maybe ask for half her salary till you can do something better, but do understand that women will be women, we are hard headed and stuborn, but be persistent,( not too persistant, don't want divorce!), and we usually cave in.

Sorry, your marriage sounds very selfish and one sided. My husband and I work as a team, will put everything together and pay whatever is needed.

she should help you thats what marriage is about love and support and be there for each other. You shouldn't even have to remind her what you did for her she should be conscient of all of it.

I don't what to say except say I'm just really shocked by her attitude.

good luck though

If you are married are you not supposed to share everything?

Maybe she's not show much worried about you.