Seniors who have lost a paartner.?

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Do you sit at home sadly and just plod through life. Here in Australia we have a 95 year old man that backpacks around the World. He stays in hostels and has made a lot of young friends and been to over 100 Cities since his wife died. He goes away for many months each time then comes home to plan his next trip. Emirates have up graded him to business class for his next trip. He travels by train when he gets to Europe and walks through the towns. I say Good on him.

for the times · Accepted Answer

Good for him. How wonderful .
No, I did not sit about plodding through life.But my adventure was to move 2 states away and buy the home I wanted and fix it up and I'm very happy with my big adventure although it is not like his.

Anonymous · Answer

When I lost my wife, I was devastated. We'd been best friends and lovers for 27 years. I went through the motions of living. It was six months before food had any taste! Man was not made to live alone. I soon started to try to find another partner. It was discouraging. Damned few women of any age, are interested in men in their mid 70s. Especially men that live off the beaten path, far from towns. 

Found a like minded lady, and we are having a great time. It took years. We live active full lives, now.

Dorothy C · Answer

No, at the time my husband died (at the age of 76), I was still working.  I'm now retired due to medical reasons, but I do whatever I'm physically able to do.  
Unfortunately, there is no way I can backpack around the World.  I'm thrilled when I can bend down and get up, and my joints aren't too painful.  I do take a daily walk, and I go to water exercise.  And I'm active in a number of organizations.  I do volunteer work one afternoon a week.  I've just signed up for a cruise that leaves from a nearby port - no plane involved.  I'm going by myself, and have no problem with that. 
I do believe that I will never fully get over my husband's death.  I feel that he is with me at all times.  I'm not as happy as I was when he was around.  However, these feelings have never led me to give up on life, and sit around ploding thru life.  It just makes me work harder at finding joy in life.

clarity · Answer

No, I do not sit home sadly.  I've been widowed for 10 years now and have a great life.  After getting through the mourning and other adjustments, you have a choice.  I chose to live.  One never knows how much time they have left.  My husband died at age 55.  He loved life and so do I.  I also know my husband would want me to do all the great, fun things I've been doing.

savannah&#39;s body guard · Answer

Absolutely not.  My husband was 63 years old when he died from gross medical malpractice. It was very traumatic for me and I was in a daze for months afterwards. I knew that he would not have wanted me to grieve endlessly and stop living.

We were married for 24 years and he was the love of my life. I feel he is always with me...especially during the difficult period of the subsequent lawsuit, endless depositions. I was emotionally and physically drained. When the lawsuit was finally settled I felt somewhat vindicated and at peace.

I have no financial worries and never will...I am able to live very comfortably. I am making the most of my life as he surely would have wanted me to.

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