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Guy friend changed from hot to cold? Its confusing?

I have this guy friend I have know a few years. We use to have great conversations, hang out, he use to visit me on my job, text me all the time, call me frequently etc.

Well that has all changed, he rarely text, rarely calls, won't return my calls, we no longer hang out. I noticed even when he talks to me in person he gives me literally no eye contact (just brief) and turns while talking.

I continue to be a good friend as though nothing is wrong, but it bothers me. I noticed when he does text now he just text me to tell me where he is traveling to: Paris, Miami, etc. as to brag. The texts are at odd times (late evening or night) due to time difference.

When I just text or call just to say hello or see how he is doing, his text or responses are : Good or Well.

I feel friends don't do this to friends and we never had any disagreement or problems.

This guy went from hot (warm personality) to cold (stale).

So I thought of just ignoring him, no longer calling or texting, giving him his space-move on. If he text about his trips/vacations just ignoring it.

His behavior confuses me. If I ask him if he is ok or his behavior has changed, trust me he will say nothing is wrong. So I don't want to even go there.

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  • 9 years ago
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    Most likely someone has told him something about you that he did not approve of or found shocking and no longer wants to be friends. This happen to my son he is in his twenty's, he had a friend female that he spoke to a lot and would bring her over to our home just to hang and have dinner with. One day someone told him that when she goes to party's she will pick a guy she thinks is cute and take him to a back room or the car and give him a BJ! He refuse to believe this and ask a few close friends and they told him YEP! she does do this at times. So he no longer wants her around and has not spoken to her in over a year, please do not get me wrong i am not judging you, but it looks like someone told him something about you that he no longer wishes to be close friends with you. My advice move on and just forget about the good old times because that is history!

  • tittle
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    5 years ago

    i do not quite agree about "the manly element to do is keep her chasing the guy". i imagine he may basically be shy. The worst case may be that he may no longer be as into you anymore. yet i imagine you should call him and confer with him about his behaviour. verbal change is better. best of success!

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