Problem with my wife's brother and need a suggestion?

Yeah, I'm sort of in the same boat with my own brother. Here's what I've come up with. It isn't about the money that's paid or how someone gets it. It's a about being an active part of the family and working together to get the job done. So. it's great that you let the kids live there, but guess what they're your KIDS and no matter how old, that's what you're supposed to do! But a grown man? Not cleaning up after himself? Nah, I'd put a stop to that. I had to make a chore chart because mine would NEVER do anything unless I asked and even then, he's get HUFFY about it. So, I made a chart for daily, weekly, monthly chores for EVERYONE in the house (grown ups included) so that everyone can see that we all pitch in to take care of the house that takes care of us. I'd set some rules about cleaning up after one's self and also some consequences for not doing so. If he isn't mentally or physically challenged, then he's to be held accountable. So, talk it over with the wifey and then call a family meeting! Good luck!

You did not say why he's on SSI... and that i ask your self if he has psychological heath themes? that's complicated to comprehend a persons' habit in the adventure that they have got psychological wellbeing themes, except we were there or are a psychological wellbeing specialist. i'm no longer making excuses on your brother in regulation, and it must be a good theory if he ought to commence an element time pastime of a few style so as that he feels useful. he will be complicated pressed to locate someplace to stay (sponsored housing?) on $750 or so a month. curiously, he's chuffed residing the way he does, and it type of feels to me he has been enabled to proceed doing so because it became under no circumstances reported/enforced that he ought to get a job. similar is going for the messes he makes... if he's round 40 years previous, he must be taking duty to sparkling issues up as he makes a mess. no longer basically that, yet when he sees something that desires executed, why isn't he pitching in? similar reason, your spouse/you've enabled him to stay existence lazy. i'm on SSI because the outcome of an twist of destiny -- it replaced my finished existence and that i lost each and every thing. I recommend each and every thing. i'm fortunate to have an section to employ from a buddy and because I actually have recovered incredibly properly over the most suitable few years, i can help you with issues that choose executed around the following and in my buddy's living house. i'm fairly delighted to do it, because my lease is fairly low. I supplemnt my income by utilizing promoting small artwork. i'm to the point whre i'd be searching for section-time employment interior the very close to destiny. My buddy and her husband have also "paid" me for my help by utilizing giving me a vehicle. that's no longer well worth plenty notwithstanding it seems respectable and runs properly. i'm particular that i ought to lay round in my deepest area always and do fairly no longer something with my existence, notwithstanding that's no longer in my nature. i favor to be energetic and sense alive back.... i desire issues exercising consultation consisting of your brother in regulation and that you and your spouse can communicate with him about his own existence direction, the help you want round your position, besides. If he can get a school degree, then he can make himself functional around the living house or perhaps in society. in my view, i ought to provide him situations == help around the living house, search out a minimum of section time artwork, or locate elsewhere to stay. it fairly is, if he's in a position?

You need to lay it down its your home as well I dont care if she is your wife this is not ok for your marrige. Give him 2 months to find a apartment and stick to it if your wife says no, you need to ask her whos house is this?? Ours not his which is yours as well. Put your foot down, as for your daughter she needs to be a mom to her children not her 40 year old brother. I hope you the best and I hope it all works out, remember to put your foot down.