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? asked in Society & CultureCultures & GroupsLesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender · 9 years ago

I have a sex question..?

I slept with a guy last night that I had also slept with once a few months back. Both times we were both drinking a lot and he initiated it both times. I was pretty hesitant last night but I gave in to his aggressive advances since I wanted it too..

The problem: He got a slight erection but had difficulty maintaining it. I gave him oral and manual simulation several times but he was still barely able to penetrate me. We tried for well over an hour.

My first reaction was that he's not attracted to me.. but if that's the case, why is he trying so hard to have sex with me? Could it be the alcohol that is making it difficult for him to get a solid erection? Or is he just not attracted to me?

I know that none of you can say for sure, I just appreciate the advice. Thanks!

Update:

I didn't intend for this to go into the LGBT section. Just to clarify, I am female and he is male.

Update 2:

ah ha, somebody! Very hilarious and definitely possible since he seems rather insecure about his sexuality at times.

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  • Potter Fan
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    You are correct in thinking the alcohol can be a possible cause. It is difficult for men to become aroused while they are under the influence, so that is most likely the reason. Do not think it is you, because it seems clear to me that he wanted you, otherwise he wouldn't have tried so hard in the first place. The only other possible reason is that he is not attracted to women in general, but without knowing him I cannot tell you for sure. I hope this helps you! If you are still unconvinced, I recommend trying to get intimate without the alcohol.

    Source(s): Psychology Basics
  • ?
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    Alcohol: The cause of and solution to all of life's problems!

    Mr. Хуй says that too much vodka makes him go softer!

  • Somebody
    9 years ago

    //I didn't intend for this to go into the LGBT section. Just to clarify, I am female and he is male.//

    May be it's a sign from God that he's gay.

  • Jamie
    Lv 6
    9 years ago

    If he wasn't attracted to you he wouldn't have initiated it. It's obviously the alcohol, it has that effect.

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  • reme_1
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    Try having sex without all the drinking!!!!!

  • ?
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    well it is quite common for men that are drunk to not be able to keep an erection

  • Mercilessly UntalenTED
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    alcohol definitely has that effect:

    as well as many kinds of meds !

  • Envy Is My God
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    i would assume it was the alcohol, if you like him maybe try it again without the alcohol

  • J
    9 years ago

    heavy drinking is heavy : anything after is worthless

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