M&D: Do you think my pregnant sister should have to quit working?

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Well I have a 29 year old sister who has been married for like 10 years now (WOW!)  LOL they have 2 children & one on the way.  She just had my little nephew last year who turned 1 years old back in February.  Well she is pregnant again & though she worked all last year until it was time for her to go on maternity leave like a month before she had my nephew, this time my brother in law which is her husband has told her he doesn't want her to work anymore.  He says he wants her to just stay at home & focus on the children & home while preparing for the baby they're going to have in November (she's 3 months pregnant).  I babysit for them & don't mind it, but her husband says I have a life of my own I need to take care of & don't need to spend so much time looking after their kids.  I really don't mind because I love my neice & nephew to death & would put my life on hold for them if I ever had to.  But she says she wants to do just what she did while she was pregnant with my nephew to add to & maintain the steady income they have.  Now it isn't like they're in a financial bind or anything like it, they actually have a good amount of money to last them a minute, but her husband just doesn't want her to focus on working.  He only wants her to take it easy for a while.  Opinions?  Do you think my sister should have to do like her husband says just stay home for a while & prepare for the new baby or does she have as much right to continue working as he does?

Solomon Grundy · Answer

Obviously at some point she has to.  Early on, I think it's a toss up.  She's the pregnant one so if she feels she can work, she should continue.  Obviously the husband is being the good husband and wanting her to stay home.  It's not like she's not going to work at home with 2 kids.  Hopefully he's not thinking she's going to have it easy at home.  Hopefully they can come to a compromise.

No More Abuse · Answer

Parents make decision about working outside of the home, each couple should decide what is best for their own family....stay home moms have a lot of responsibility in raising children, it's a lot of hard work..career mothers have challenges too..I have been both a 'stay home mom' and a career mom' over the years..both ways worked out for me..

? · Answer

You have to understand some people just need/want to work...things happen so just in case it's better for her to work and if she is able to do so and with no doctors order not to stay home, I dot see the harm for her not to work?

I know I am not the type to stay home unless I am too sick to work, I can't stay home and watch kids all day, I will go crazy lol

CarbonDated · Answer

I get that she wants to work.  But, your BIL is correct. She should stop taking advantage of you and expect you to babysit.  If she finds an alternative sitter, then it's a nonissue.  

My Dad was always harranging my mom to quit working. She worked so she could get AWAY from home life - she was basically treated like a servant, always at someone's beck and call, with little respect.

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M&D: Do you think my pregnant sister should have to quit working?

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