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His communication skills are confusing? any advice?
I have this guy friend when he met me tried to hit on me, took me out to dinner, bought me extravagant gifts, would flirt with me, always complimented me, would call, text (whatever). Even invited me to family and business functions.
Anyways, over the course of time I grew to like him (we never slept with each other, we never kissed). Just a hug after our dinner dates.
I told him in January I liked him (that is all I said). Well he rejected me and said he just wanted to be friends, he values our friendship too much as he put it. I accepted that and thought ok at least I have a friend.
What I am confused about now is I remain the same (a friend) I don't bring up the past, I always am polite and pleasant I hold no hard feelings. Well this so called friend is short with me for no reason, can't even look at me (eye contact when talking) looks around, seems preoccupied. Acts weird around me now. I remain myself and a friend (nothing more).
He now stopped calling, texting and e-mailing me. So in return I don't even bother communicating with him since he acts this way.
BUT the big issue is when he comes to my office for business he text me " I am here" like nothing expecting me to greet him and meet him. (this is like twice a month).
I don't get this guy and friends don't treat friends this way. What should I do or how do I act when I see this guy now and he does this? What would you do? If someone did this to you.
Another strange thing he randomly now text out the blue when he goes on his vacations telling me he is in paris, carribbean etc. and then ask how I am doing?
Mature answers or advice
Felt mature adults would provide better advice or experience than the teeny boppers in friends or singles.
5 Answers
- Anonymous9 years agoFavorite Answer
The next time he texts you at work saying "I am here" text him back and say "I'm at my desk if you're interested in seeing me".
Personally it doesn't sound like this guy has much to offer. He's not even a good friend anymore. He sounds rude but perhaps he just doesn't know how to act around people.
- 9 years ago
You first have to decide if you really want to be this man's friend. Is it worth the trouble? If you decide yes, perhaps you should take him out to dinner (not romantic way) and see if he is depressed. That would be being a good friend. Another reason behind the madness is that he doesn't feel like you care enough about him and he's just trying to see how much you really do care and want him in your life, friend or in a romantic way. Finally, honestly .... he could just be using you as a "in case something better comes along." Literally just stringing you along, making you "like" him so he isn't lonely but he is still available. I saw the last option because my friend JUST went through that case. Good luck honey! You deserve love and love shouldn't feel like a chore or game.
- ?Lv 49 years ago
He just wanted to be friends, that words came from him, and I think he meant it. The reason why he text you is..... like you he is just being polite and pleasant, If you feel uncomfortable with this kind of friend relationship, there is no reason to continue. The reason why he is texting you is because he knows that you like him and it boosted his self esteem.That's all.
- ErikaLv 45 years ago
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- 9 years ago
im an older woman so i thought i'd drop some of my thoughts here. just from what you say in this forum, sounds like, to me, hes a married man, using you to experiment and perfect his skills to become a full fledged cheater. walk away hunny, WALK AWAY!!
