Is it ok that i call my boyfriend of 7 years my husband?

Honestly, as far as I am concerned the only thing that is missing in your relationship to be called, by the law, marriage is some stupid papers, the rest you have it, you live together, you have kids together, you raise them together, I agree with you, you are in a serious, mature relationship and that's all marriage is about, so you totally have the right to call him husband!!! Besides it sounds a lot better than calling him your boyfriend when you already have children, it's just my opinion.

I have a friend that changes boyfriend every 4 months and she always calls them her husbands, it is a bit weird as she is only 19 and really immature but to us, her friends, we are already used to it.

You should look into what your state laws are. There are a few states that still allow for common law marriages. Which mean if you live together for more than a certain amount of years you are considered married by that state. Thankfully most states have abolished this little blip.

Now, as for your question. Who you really should be asking is your boyfriend. Maybe he doesn't want to be known as your husband for a legal or personal reason?

It would be better to call him your partner than to call him your husband. It would also be far more honest and cause less legal problems. Most people today understand partner and won't ask further questions. It's becoming the new form of long term relationships.

Yes. Call him your husband. It's nobodies business whether he is or isn't. Some people are judgemental and will look down on you for not being wed and to avoid this nonsense, use the term.

But you will be living a lie so it's best to correct the situation and get the papers someday. This will eliminate the issue from your life.

You can, however, the papers prove it.

If you've been together 7 yrs, there's no reason why you shouldn't be married already if you plan to stay together. I'm just saying, you may as well do it right if you're going to stay together.

Is it okay as in nobody is going to punish you for it, but marriage is a sacred institution and if after 7 years I guess I would just say you need to look at why it doesn't feel right to call him your bf.

In States with Common Law Marriage laws, this is actually one of the prerequisites. Introducing your partner as your spouse.

Even if you are not in one of these states, I don't see that it would hurt.

If you live in North America and have been together for more than 12 consecutive months he is your husband under the common-law.

That would be about as accurate as calling him your shoe. If he's not your husband, don't call him that. If you want him to be your husband, marry him.

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Why don't you just marry him and get with reality?

It wouldn't be true if you did. Why not ask him to marry you.