QUICK! how do i tell my dad i dont want him in my life?

Your Dad is your Dad and at least he is trying to be in your life, unlike some other fathers who do not care at all. Your Dad may not be perfect, but he is your Dad. Do not lie to him about having to babysit when you are not, that is also wrong. I would ask him why he told someone he had no kids. Confront him, respectfully. It could just be a rumor that you heard that was not true. Don't shun him when you have not heard his side of the story. Give him a chance to explain.

Be an adult, be honest, be open, and have integrity.

If I was in your shoes, I'd meet "dad" over coffee or whatever, and tell him how you feel and why, face to face. Then make your request. Be prepared to accept his response.

"semi-decent" to a guy is at least 3 of: straightforward, honest, to-the-point, concise - without being repetitive or dramatic. "fully decent" is all of the above, with respect and appreciation.

If you want him to hear, you'll need to beef up his ego by expressing appreciation. Thank him for something, anything... child support, holding a job, desiring a relationship with you, anything.

If you give appreciation in great measure first, it will soften the blow of rejection. If you respect him as you communicate your wishes, you have a better chance of him respecting your wishes in return.

Personally, I'd request that he set "repairing his relationship with mom, until they are best of friends", as top priority... and that once he can be a true husband, then he has a chance to start being a real dad.

Sounds like you've got a list of hurts and offenses against him... those hurts will weigh you down, even if / when he is out of your life. True healing comes when you express your hurts to him, and offer him forgiveness.

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If your only reason for cutting him out is because he told someone that he didn't have kids, then I don't think it's good enough reason to cut him out. Do you know the circumstances? Maybe he didn't trust that person enough? Maybe he was afraid of being judged?

I have biracial kids, and after I got divorced, I found a job..and I got no child support at that time. I found out that I was working for very racist people, but I desperately needed to support my kids.. so I never let those folks know about my kids. Im not ashamed of my kids AT ALL. Eventually, they found out about my kids, and then as I expected, their attitudes changed towards me and I lost my job. But I did what I had to do to feed my kids... my kids might have found that out and assumed I was ashamed of them, but it was far, far from the truth. In life, we pick and choose our battles..

Tell him that you know what he said, then tell him you don't want him in your life. Just like you said!!

just say " yes." keep it simple... and make sure you put in the full stop... if he says anything back to you then just say " keep away from me. " dont even explain yourself hun hes been an idiot to you !! xx