Yesterday my son graduated from high school. He didn't go to graduation. Should I be upset.?

When we are contemplating anger, we must ask ourselves, will anger help to correct. Correction is the only righteous reason for anger. I don't think he really did anything wrong. Selfish, maybe. Inconsiderate, maybe. You wanted a memory of his commencement. You may have wanted pictures, and things like that. Guys, typically, do not see ceremonies being nearly as important as most gals do. Unfortunately, we cannot be angry at people because of things like these. Picture a wife, angry at her husband because he doesn't show her the affection she thinks she deserves. Will her anger cause her husband to be more affectionate toward her? Unless he is one in a million, it will not. It will cause him to be less affectionate toward her (and possibly more affectionate toward someone else). If you convey anger to your son because of this, it will only drive a wedge between you. Accept the faults of your son. Realize that young people don't have a lot of wisdom. Love him because he is your son, and let the gravity of his faults diminish in the depths of your love.

Sounds such as you forgot that he isn't with her anymore, he is with you. I know the thought of your husband having a picture of his ex-wife and their son together bothers you. I don't feel it was a excellent suggestion that you just made a seen. His ex is in most cases thinking, hmmm she's jealous of me and there must be some problems within the marriage. When your husband prints out the picture, why not purchase an actual first-class frame for the image and provides it to your step son. I feel the photo would imply a entire lot more to him then to your husband. Who knows, maybe the only purpose why your husband took the snapshot within the first place, was once for his son to have. It used to be HIS graduation!

What reason did he give you for not attending? If it was a valid reason then accept it. If he couldn't provide you with any valid reasoning for not attending then I would be pissed.

At least he got his diploma, now what's next? If he doesn't have plans for college or a career then you need to light a fire under him and get him motivated to make something happen. Let him know that it is completely unacceptable for him to just lay around the house playing video games and watching TV while you work all day. Like you said, he's an adult now and adults make their own decisions, so what's it going to be? He's got a decision to make to do something with his life.

Why would you go to the graduation if he didn't walk? Not all HS student want to go to their graduation ceremony. He graduated HS. that is what counts. I would be a little sad that my son wouldn't want to attend the ceremony, I wouldn't take it personal or be really hurt about it. You could of planned a nice family dinner to celebrate.

I don't know what you mean by "I can't do this again"

When I went to High School, my fellow classmates did their best to make my life miserable the entire time I was there. When Graduation finally came, I went to the ceremony, which was fake, all they handed you up on stage was an empty vinyl and cardboard Diploma holder, but I was ever so glad to get as far away as possible from those people.

Perhaps your son feels the same?

yes you should be upset.. That is a once in a life time thing that will happen and something most teens should be proud of.. If i were you in your situation i would take two steps back and honestly act like you don't care and I promise you he will start taking two steps forward meeting you half way this works 90 percent of the time and is called the rubber band affect. But you did your best raising him and now its time for you to take care of you.

As long as your son gets his High School Diploma, he's graduated. He doesn't have to the actually graduation ceremony.

Wow he wouldn't attend his graduation even for his own mom? Kind of selfish and he probably needs more time to grow up. He'll probably regret not going later on in life.

I didn't attend mine, and I don't regret a thing. I hated high school, I hated everyone I had to attend it with. I was depressed/suicidal from bullying, and I wanted to just get it over. I'm sure this hurt my mom, but I've proven to her over the years that I'm just not a traditionalist and I think she's accepted that fact.

I didn't go to my University graduation since I find the whole concept of ceremony incredibly dull....

No deeper reason than I just thought it would be really really boring.

If he is happy what is the problem?