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? asked in Pregnancy & ParentingParenting · 9 years ago

How does child support work if the dad doesn't have a job. And this situation is really bothering me. Help!?

How does child support work if the dad doesn't have a job. And this situation is really bothering me. Help!?

My son's father is known for pulling the disappearing act on me.

He left me when I was six months pregnant, and came back trying to do right, now my son is 15months and he just stopped calling and checking and offering to help me with him about a month ago.

That is the last time I heard from him. I found out he is living with a woman and her two kids. He also has two kids by another woman.

He hasn't had a job in the 71/2 years that I have known him he is a 3 time felon and honestly I don't no exactly were he is but he is on parol.

I am very angry that he has left me to care for my child alone, and this is also my first child. The woman he is staying with is an older woman, well compared to me and him she is older, maybe like 32 or 33 but his brother told me the last time he spoke with him he was talking about the things he has done for her son.

He does little odd jobs like work on cars and help fix up houses and he is actually good at it, but why would he help with this woman's kid and not his own.

I'm also sure he has reached out to his other baby mama and has probably sent money to them why would he not reach out to me about our son at all, he hasn't denied him and my son looks just like him and his other two kids.

So why would he just act like our son doesn't exist.

I will be honest he has been on and off of pcp, doesn't have a car, job the clothes he has either got from a woman buying it for him or he stole them from someone he know's.

The cell phone he has his mom makes the payment on. He is 27 years old. I already have established paternity through the state because he did not comply.

They added his name to the birth certificate and basically established paternity although when he said he would be there to help, he started helping so I did not show up for the final hearing and they withheld the child support order, but forced him as the biological father. So now I am having them add the child support but he has absolutely nothing.

He is known for living off of women, heck he even gets them to were they are into him and trust him uses them in a way were they don't feel like there being used and robs there house like when they go to work and takes off.

He has done this a few times that I no about. So I'm sure the woman he is staying with now is doing the vast majority, while he is getting more in the long run.

But at the same time he is helping her with her kids and ain't done anything for his own. How would child support work in this case?

Update:

Also this is the state of Missouri. Would he be behind 15months since he hasn't really done anything but watch him while I went to work in the last 15months.

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    Which you can still file to establish little one support even supposing anybody would not have a job. The court docket will seem at the situations and order what it feels he can or should be competent to pay. Although any person isn't working at all most states have a minimal month-to-month baby support payment. What's going to happen if he isn't working and is not paying is that the ordered aid will continue to accrue and that you can file with the courtroom for contempt (for now not paying the support and accordingly violating a court order). Whether the court docket will certainly do something about it (they can warn him, put him in penitentiary, and many others.) depends upon whether the court believes he is purposely averting paying the help or whether or not he's really seeking to get a job however just are not able to. Unluckily, in these types of circumstances, despite the fact that aid is ordered and continues to accrue, the mum or dad with custody generally will see little support without a doubt coming by means of. For quick assistance together with your youngster, i might advocate contacting your state's child help restoration office. They are able to support you get aid based and put into effect it, refer you to family regulation attorneys, and in all probability aid you to find other help if needed.

  • 9 years ago

    Oh boy! Ok, sweetie, I feel for u! This is s sticky situation because the only thing u did to him was put him in jail. A court order for child support on a guy that doesn't work and hasn't worked since u've known him is a dead end. He is not going to be able to pay if he doesn't have a steady income. It is then his responsibility to make sure that u see the money that his son deserves and from what u said, it doesn't look likely. It should be a crime for a man to make a baby and dip, but you should have seen the red flags but you made the ultimate decision to sleep with him. So now u have to find a way out of it. You just got "got". You will never just be mommy but you have to play the role of daddy too, and that's hard to do with a boy. All u said about your sons father is all speculation. I cannot speak on that because I don't know the truth behind it. Truth is, paternity has already been established and child support has been enforced so you've done your part. Don't stress about your sons father stepping up the "daddyhood" plate and playing a great game. It won't happen. Lower your expectations... You can't act like he's the only one at fault. It's easier for a guy to walk out of his child's life than it will ever be for a woman. As soon as u come to terms with what your son and your life will look like with out him the easier this transition will be for u. Honey, the world is full of dead beats but it's also full of the stupid chicks that lay up with them. Take my words with a grain of salt, your situation happened to me too. I've realized what my mistake was and I've moved on. You will too! We are now made to look like statistics. One of the many woman who've had children out of wedlock and are raising them on our own. Move on with your life, honestly, he already has. I believe in karma. My son is five and has lived a better life without his sperm donor than he would have if he were in his life.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    If he is not working on the books for an employer and is only working odd and ends jobs which he gets paid cash for and is not claiming said income, then he has no income in the eyes of the court. They would mandate him to pay the minimum amount of child support per month. No offense, but if you knew he was a jerk off living off of women with no job then why did you have a kid with him?

    Source(s): Mom to a Beautiful Little Girl <3
  • 9 years ago

    None of the things you mentioned will matter at all in court except the no job one.

    If he has no job he can be forced to pay child support......I know in my state (michigan) I have seen judges tell men to pick up refundable cans to pay .........but it is very little money and will not help you much. It totally depends on the judge he gets..

    You cant force him to be a good father. As your child gets older dont tell her he is coming over......until he grows up and comes regularly.......let his visits be a surprise.

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  • 9 years ago

    Well the goverment gives u money like colorado works and stuff for ur baby

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    u sound jus like my mom, sheesh its like if the dude aint a good dude leave him, now hopefuly u learned ur lesson but it dont matter cuz u stuck witta baby, facepalm

  • seven
    Lv 6
    9 years ago

    sounds like you'd be better off raising your kid yourself without him at all. why would you want him around?

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