A polite way to say leave your kid at home?

yes, It is acceptable to ask that she get a sitter. However, the best way is to hire a sitter for her that will take her child and wear them out. Tell her that the first time is on you. Tell her it is going to be nice for all, especially her to have the much needed girl time without bids and or men. \Make her a gift card with the sitters number and a note saying the first time is prepaid. If you know any others who babysit, give her their number. Tell her that the sitter really needs some extra cash and her monthly contribution would help then out and give her some much needed mommy unwind time.If not, let her know that it is finally adult talk time. She may be unaware that her son is unruly and unwelcome.. Politely let her know that she also needs time to relax to be a better parent. Good luck.

Her comment that you should "Stop parenting [her] child; this is just how kids are and if you had any, you would know this." is downright rude. Truth be told, she should have been stepping up and parenting her child by telling him to eat his food in the kitchen like you asked and to stop tormenting the dog. As for the Wii game system getting broken, accidents do happen, but she should have offered to replace it. It seems to me that you were polite about this for as long as was reasonably possible and you had a right to finally put your foot down. Hopefully the other people that she is talking to about you will also see what an agressive overbearing person she is and see through her comments. If not, then maybe they'll learn when the have her and her kid over for a visit. j0e

Im sure if you tell her that since she already has the nerve to bring him, she will be insulted and mad. Why not have the person who usually arranges the time and place to call everyone and say since school is out for the summer and people are going on vacations, we will suspend the monthly meetings until September ________. and make that date after school starts. Meanwhile, those who never bring their kids can call each other and get together separately in groups of 2 or 3 so she cannot say everyone met without telling me.

OR

Tell her not to bring him, heh heh

I suggest you suspend the get to gathers for the summer months. Everyone will be taking vacations and have summer activities that will make having a set schedule difficult. Agree to meet the second week in September for your usual breakfast/lunch and start from there.Now the remainder of the group is free to do some last minute planning for a breakfast/lunch meeting whenever it fits your summer schedule.

Yes. Tell her that it is a get together for adults and the group has noticed that her child seems to be bored and distracted, and she should make arrangements for him with a sitter. That way the group can enjoy the adult company. If she gets offended, and she will, tell her you're sorry, but this time is not kids. Go to Chuck E cheese and be with your kid.

You can...but I'm betting she'll get offended. The thing is, you all have to choose your priority here. You have to decide whether you're more willing to sit through an entire summer of stressful dining than you are to possibly lose one of your dining partners, but enjoy your time together. It's a tough situation.

Just remove her from your group by resetting the time or such other inconvenience to bar her attendance. She will always vote of her "baby" or he would not be a brat. She will ease out without much dispute. Then, she have more time to love her "baby."

just say it's girls only no kids so you can have a drink or talk about ''adult stuff'' as an 8 year old will understand what you are saying now.

Maybe ASK her to, not TELL her to. OR stop having these get togethers with her or not at all.

stay the **** home please