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A person who I considered my friend for over 25 years is getting married tomorrow, but she did not invite me?
to her wedding. The only reason I know is because of facebook. She lives in New York, and I live in Virginia by way of military. Last year she invited me to her 30th birthday party. I flew from Va to NY. The funny thing is I helped her pay her restaurant tab, because it was a split bill, and most of her NY friends did not want to pay their share. We grew up in the same church and our parents know each other and still go to the same church. I want to confront her, but it is not about me and it's her big day. Do I have a reason to feel some type of way? Should I send her a gift even though I wasn't invited? What would you do?
@ the DT, there is no where in my comment where I said I just found out now. I knew for over a year that she was engaged and that she was counting down the days on facebook. I just thought I would get an invite in the mail or something. When I realized that I wasn't invited to the wedding shower or bachelorette party that's when i knew for a fact that I wasn't invited. It felt awkward confronting her, because I always considered her as my friend, not a best friend but a friend. She has been posting comments on facebook for a while. Everyone else, I agree to let it go, I don't remember doing saying or doing anything to offend her last year. Sometimes people just grow apart.
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- angeloneusLv 79 years agoFavorite Answer
If you didn't even get a wedding notice, I would definitely not send a gift. Consider the friendship over unless you get further contact from her. Sounds like something else happened last year at her birthday party and she has written you off. Don't confront her, don't ruin her wedding. If you want the friendship, confronting won't help, and if you don't, confronting will just make things strained when you go to church with your parents. Leave it alone and see what happens.
- ?Lv 79 years ago
She's getting married tomorrow and you're just finding out about it now? I'm sorry, but if you two have been friends for 25 years and she was unable to invite you for whatever reason the VERY LEAST she could do is call you and explain it to you. That said, wait until after the wedding then contact her. Let her know that you are confused about why you hadn't been told of her impending nuptials (not about the lack of an invitation) as you would have loved to send a card or gift. Hear what she has to say and discuss how this made you feel.
- 9 years ago
I feel like if she didn't invite you or mention it to you, she never considered you a friend. No I would not send her a gift. Obviously she knows how to get in contact with you because she invited you to her birthday party. But yes after about a week I would call her and just say "Hey how are you, why didn't tell me you were getting married" and just take it from there.
- Anonymous9 years ago
The best thing to do is ask because u never know and she's been ur friend fir 25 yrs so I say send a gift! She might just invite her family and his.
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- 9 years ago
Personally I would ask her or just send her a gift Cuz if u guys were friends for that long you should have gotten an invite just sayin..