What is the best way to solve this wedding problem?

Well, it depends on the reasons. Do you think it might look tacky? Or, you don't want this to turn into a keg party? Why does the groom want a keg? And just one keg or several? How much beer do his friends drink? Are you having an open bar? I don't know the reasons that each if you have for your opinions. Can you compromise? Offer to have one keg? Have him pay for the keg?

That depends.

What is your reasoning?

If it is economical, just ask him to pay. Kegs are cheap. If he wants them, he can pay for them.

If it is a different reason, I suggest you decide if this is a battle worth fighting. Do you want to take a stand on this issue if it will piss off your son in law, and potentially your child, and his family?

If he wants to pay for the kegs, that is his right.

But you might explain that he would have a more fun wedding night if he stays sober. I'd love to see his reaction if that came from his future in-laws. ha!

Old saying: He who pays the piper gets to call the tunes.

This is why I advocate that bridal couples should pay for their own weddings - from engagement ring to the honeymoon.

That said, rescind your offer to pay for your daughter's wedding. Then he can have as much beer as he wants - but not on your nickle. You might offer to pay for something else - student loans, car repairs, even the down payment on a house or some other major item - but NOT the wedding (or the honeymoon) if he insists on alcohol knowing it offends you.

Your daughter will howl of course - but hold your ground. This is a deal-breaker insofar as you are concerned. Moreover, if her fiance is being this disrespectful to those who are paying for HIS wedding - then your daughter might reconsider marrying him at all.

You don't need to give an explanation - this is your party if you're paying for it.

nope - your budget - if they want beer kegs - invite them to pay.

When my son got married his bride's family were HUGE drinkers - they wanted us to chip in for the booze. We said no. Glad we did - they were hauling kegs in about every 15 min - don't even want to think about that bar bill.

It's wrong if he offers to pay for them. You may be paying for it and have the rights to the reception and wedding, but it is still his and your daughter's big day.

If he wants to pay for these beer kegs then let him.

I feel that this issue is, as my mom would say, a skinny rabbit. It's easy to spend all your time chasing it, but it won't yield much meat when you catch it. I'm not sure this is a battle I would choose to fight.

Yes, it would be wrong. If you are gifting the wedding, you do so with no strings attached. They plan the wedding they want. Unless they are planning something illegal or immoral, stand back and let them plan.

Depends - do you care about the bride and groom and respect their wishes, or do you want to be manipulative and controlling?

i think it's okay to say no to him, but first have your reasons planned, then tell him on the phone or in person the reasons why you don't"t want that so he can understand, and everyone can be happy.