Wedding etiquette, is this tacky?

Fourth marriage? He should not expect to get ANY gifts, monetary or otherwise.

Oh it is tacky alright. She should not have posted that on her flyer / invite. Please chose gifts because it is something the couple can use or would enjoy having. So just pick out a gift and send it to the couple and do not worry about it the gift is up to the giver and you are not invited to the reception just the ceremony.

Ridiculously tacky! It is tacky to ask for monetary gifts at all, but to ask for money from guests that aren't even invited to the reception is just crazy! Best of luck dealing with this lady, since she sounds like a real handful!

For those who don't know, a Wedding gift can be given at any time; they are NOT only given at the Reception.

This quest for money seems rather desperate to me, not just rude. Especially since these monetary gifts are probably paying for that reception she can't afford to share with all of her guests.

Unless I knew this person very well, I would also pass on this wedding...maybe wait to see if she can afford a reception with #5 ( j/k!)

Tacky...VERY tacky. Gifts are normally received at the reception...and since you're not invited to the reception...then no gift is necessary.

who the f''k goes to the ceremony if not invited for the reception? don't u have anything better to do with your time than to fill the seats in church and pay for it? this sounds very tacky and i wouldn't even dignify her with some apologies why i can not come - i would just totally ignore everything

If she were asking for gift cards that would be find but MONEY UP FRONT! she might as while be holding a tin cup asking for help! Tacky very tacky!

sounds very tacky, but im not a wedding expert