someone told me he was cheating no way to prove it what do i do?

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so my fiancee was out with this girl that i do not like. They were sex buddies be for we got together, and have been friends since kindergarten. I asked him not to talk to her anymore, when ever he goes out and drinks he always has his buddies with him and supposedly they are the ones who calls her. well his phone got cut off and that ended that until a few weeks ago he had went to his grandmothers house to help her with some drywall and when i went over there he was outside with this girl in his car drunker than ****. I flipped out and tried to run him over with my car or wreck my car into his, but i gave up decided it was not With it. So he takes off and I went home with the kids and talked to him a few times that night so in the back seat was this other guy (younger kid) and he showed up at my house and said that they was still with her. So i could not get ahold of them i called his aunt and she said that he took her home because she was passed out in the car. he did not show back up after two hours so i decided to got to sleep. Well three or 4 hours passed and i woke up and called his grannies again and he was asleep on her couch. How do i know if he did go have sex with her. I asked him, i smelled his clothes and parts, and even asked them and they both denied it. I have been told buy this one guy a few times that he was cheating on me with her, but i can not prove it and if he is lying about cheating then he is good at it, I have even asked him when he is drunk and it is always the same thing. The thing i don't understand is if he is cheating, why? why lie? why stay with me? (we got no ties at all!) why keep this up.. but i also don't understand why would this guy tell me that he cheated on me there is nothing in it for him. my fiancee family and friends always tell me that he is not good for me but never have good enough stuff to go with it.. I am just so confused and want to believe him but i just don't at all.. I love him more than life its self and never felt like this with anyone ever and i have been married once and have 3 children. IDK

Pixiep · Accepted Answer

Loving ANYONE more then you love yourself is just asking to have an unhappy and frustrating life because you CANNOT control what other people do and the only person who will always be their for you is yourself.

Yes he is cheating on you. Yes if family and friends consistently tell you to kick him to the curb it means something.  You are RIGHT why would this other guy lie about your guy cheating? Whats in it for him?

Now why would your boyfriend lie? Well why the **** not? If he can have a relationship, a girl friend that takes care of him and loves him, strokes his ego etc.. AND he can get action on the side cause his girlfriend is in denial and doesn't WANT it to be true, what motive does HE have to change it?

The situation works FOR HIM. If it doesn't work for YOU. You need to move on.

LennieLen · Answer

Well, you can't keep up marriage without complete trust. If he does all these things and is not willing to change them when you get married, then think if you want to get involved into all this at all. Because believe me, when you are married things are 100 times harder. When my husband and I got married we changed our lives 180 degrees. We changes phone numbers and we do not see anyone from our past. Otherwise, it's all a BS. Plus, his buddy girl sounds like a piece of trash. He doesn't need a person like this in his life. If his wants to stay friends with her no matter what, then it's something for you to think about.

joe.attaboy · Answer

Unbelievable. You write this sob story about how this guy might be cheating, how his friends are telling you he is, how he allegedly hangs out with his former f-buddy, and how he's drunk all the time...then you say how much you love him more than life itself? Incredible.

He is a bum, and if you can't see this, if you can't see that he's worthless and not worth your time and effort, you're just hopeless. Sorry to be so harsh, but that how it is. Good grief, you want to run him over with a car, you're smelling his clothes and his "parts" (I don't even want to picture that in my mind, okay?) and he seems to be drunk a lot. HE'S A BUM and if you stick with him, you're a fool.

Sorry.

jojo · Answer

ask yourself ....if u found out that he was cheatin would you leave him? and if it s a no then why waste ur breath asking.... 

 or u could, if you think u would leave if you found out he was..... become a secret detective let him think u have forgotton about it and wait you c what he gets up to when he thinks the heat is off.......follow him ...check his fone .....recipts etc 

personnally thou i wouldnt do either cause if he was such an inconsiderate f@@@@r i would not wait round for a reason.....his actions speak volumums

ABCXYZ · Answer

He wants his cake and icecream too? Just decide if you are going to look the other way for the kids sake i guess.

Anonymous · Answer

Your just gonna have to watch him more closely.  You need solid proof.  Watch his e-mails etc..

Sold&quot;a$$ is&quot; · Answer

Who ever told you that crap is the one you should marry!

Danielle · Answer

Jo.attaboy lol that's made me laugh so much!

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