Frustrated, Fiance doesn't help with the house! Help!?

You sound like a total biatch. I would not recommend getting married, he will want to divorce you.

The picture I get is you are crazy and exaggerating. "it gets old having to pretty much do EVERYTHING, or it not getting done." But then you complain about what happened when he does laundry. I'm not sure how laundry sitting in a basket unfolded is a waste of soap, but if he's willing to gather the laundry, put it in the machine, run it, move it to the dryer, run the dryer and load it back up why the hell is it so CRAZY for you to put it away? You sound like you want to control his life and be his master instead of attempting to find a compromise that actually works for both.

Is the sex good? If it isn't then I have no clue as to why you are living with this dude let alone getting married to him!

Sometimes $50 a week to a housekeeper is worth it! So for $2,600 a year you can have a clean house and a happy marriage!

Then talk to him. If you have, and he still refuses to help...then go on strike. I had to with my fiance. He got used to me doing all the cleaning & laundry, so he wouldn't do anything cause he knew I would eventually. So I washed only mine & my daughters clothes, did only our dishes & left his in the sick, stopped picking up after him....he finally got it & started cleaning. Not to mention I would get snappy with him. He doesn't always get up & clean & he asks the most annoying question 'what do you want me to do?" instead of taking initiative & just doing it himself. But now he notices that I'm about to get to my b*tchy stage & he will clean

You're right. It's supposed to be a team effort. My suggestion is you just stop completely. No cleaning, no laundry, no sex. Just, STOP. Eventually he will either get the hint or have to do something on his own. If he asks you to do it, tell him to do it his damn-self.

If phase 1 doesn't work, proceed to phase 2:

Phase 2: Get a real man.

How old is this mama's boy? His parents should've done a better job raising him to respect his home, be neat and clean, and to give 50-50 in a relationship concerning everything. He's your problem now. You either like it or not. Don't expect him to change.

1) WTF are you engaged to someone who is so immature that he can't even manage simple stuff like picking up after himself? What do you think is going to happen when you have some real issues to deal with?

2) If you are just starting college, WTF are you engaged to ANYONE?

Do yourself a favor and get out of the silly "must get married before I'm 21" mentality. Or enjoy your life of marital misery with an immature jerk.

here is something to try, only clean up your stuff. don't do his laundry, don't cook anything (just eat out by yourself) don't do anything for him. And if that does not work, like another person said go to plan "B"