13 and i really want to dye my hair?

Firstly, you should really read David's question here:http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ar3Iv... he's coming at the same situation, but he's the parent, not the child.

I am really impressed with the mature way you're approaching this. How do you want to dye your hair? Do you want to bleach it, or just dye over your natural colour, for a tint? Do you want to dip-dye the ends of your hair, or cover your whole head? How will you deal with it if you don't get the results you want, or if it fades to a gross colour? I doubt your parents will let you bleach, as if you want to bleach it, you'll have to learn how to bleach safely, and how to treat a chemical burn.

Do your research on Manic Panic and Splat - write to the companies and say that you want to dye your hair but need to know about the safety of their products, safety precautions, (and for any statistics they've got on teen dye use) so that you can tell your parents you're making an informed choice. When they write back to you, double-check what they've told you with independent sources. Note that it can be tricky to find independent sources that discuss a company's products - you may have to research each ingredient separately and find out how they interact. Sites with .gov in the URL are written by government sources, so are usually pretty good.

Ask your history or social science teacher, if you've got a good relationship with them, about hair dye use in teens - they might be willing to share stories about hair dye use that they've seen over the years. I doubt there would be statistics, as such, on teen hair dye use.

Also - offer to save up and pay for it yourself, and at the least, get a friend to help. Parents can rarely resist this, as it teaches you about the value of money. It's not safe to dye your eyebrows or lashes.

Ask your mother why she keeps saying no, even after you've presented your research, and reminded her that you're growing up and want to make your own choices. Tell her that it confuses you that she can't really say what her reasons are, especially as the hair dye is something that you really want, and that you've done the research to make sure that you can dye your hair safely, and that you know that your mum usually has good reasons for saying no. It may be that she thinks hair dye will make you unhappy with the rest of your body, or that it will distract you from the puppy or schooling, or even that she thinks you're too young, it will look awful and you'll regret it in seconds. Be prepared to compromise, and tell her that you are prepared to compromise - to do it during the holidays, or to choose a less-vivid look.

If you just got a puppy - train your puppy regularly how to do basic things, like sit, walk on a leash properly, lie down, and fetch. Walk the puppy regularly, clean up after it and take good care of it, as it is dependent on you. Show your mum how well behaved you can help your puppy be as a measure of your responsibility. Same situation with your marks at school - keep studying and getting good marks, and show her your marks as a measure of your responsibility. Same situation with being cheerful and helping out at home - you are part of the family and you live in the house, so helping and being cheerful about it shows your maturity and responsibility.

You're going about this the right way - don't lose hope, I'm sure you can talk this through with your parents.