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? asked in Pregnancy & ParentingParenting · 9 years ago

Please advice, How to handle it ?

Hi,

I am a Father of a 4 year old boy kid.

Need your opinion on how I should have handled a question from my kid.

Last weekend, We went for the shopping in a Mall. My wife was busy in shopping and I with my kid was wandering arround.

At last we got tired and found an empty chair in front of a Lingeri Shop.

There were two display (Female models) outside the shop.

One was wearing Sports wear, Tshirt and Short (Her Navel was not visible, only half of the stomach was visible)

and one was in undergarments. (Whose Navel was visble)

Suddenly my son spotted it and told that, Papa see - That girls Navel is not visible, where as in another we can see the Navel.

Then I told my son that - whenever we wear cloths our Navel gets hide beneath.

Then my son asked, if we will open the cloth then will it be visible ?

I told Yes, it would be.

Then he told, Papa I want to open and see.

Then I told , it would be no different , it would look like the other girl.

Then he told, I want to open that too and see.

I was stunned and laughed loudly.

I was not sure , what to reply him.

I just changed the topic and engaged him somewhere else and then he forgot.

But I couldn't forget that.

The main concern here is - His curiosity towards the female parts.

Is it normal for a kid to have curious for the opposite sex so early ?

Is it because, we take naked bath togather (Me and my son) and my wife conciously hides herself while changing dress or taking bath ?

May be he thinks that - I see papa daily but never seen Mamma ? (Can a 4 year old kid think like this ?)

Is my son behaving differently or all kids are same in this age ?

A Father from India.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
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    He's at a stage where he is curious about everything, especially the human body. Talk to him and make sure that he understands that females and males have different bodies. This should help him to understand the subject better. Hope I helped :)

  • 9 years ago

    Yes he is normal.

    Now would be a good idea to get a book designed to show children the differences between men and women.

    It is also the perfect time to teach him to respect women and their privacy.

    As a child, when I asked my parents a question they were not ready to answer they used to say;

    I'm sure someone wrote a book about this and I'll find it and we can talk about it together.

    If I asked again...they got the book.

    It also worked with my kids. The trick is to only answer what is asked. What you hear them saying, may not be what they are really asking.

    You are hearing a sexual question...he just wants to know what is different between a man and a women.

  • 9 years ago

    Very normal. Try this book Amazing you : getting smart about your private parts by: Gail Saltz

    also you could go to your local library and find many different books on the topic of talking to you kids about their bodies. Most of all just be his dad let him know its ok to be curious but that there are boundaries theres a saying " my body is my body and nobody Else's body but mine. If you want to play with somebody. you play with your body and i'll play with mine" meaning that you have to keep your hands to yourself.

    Source(s): mom of 2 and child and youth care worker
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