Adoption? Should DH and I adopt DD baby or contact an agency?

No one can tell you what to do - only offer advice. If it was me... I would not let my grandchild leave the family. Unless you know of a family nearby that desperately wants a baby but can't have one. Then you could be the God Parents and always watch over - in case of medical issues. My son is adopted, while i love him with every fiber of my being.. if he ever needed a kidney or even blood - i can not donate. When nurses ask for a family medical history... I do not know it.

A friend of mine - in high school had a little sister. It was until years later I found out it was really her niece. I do remember how much love the mom had for that little girl though. She was the light of the whole house. - if you and your husband keep her - it will be fine. 39 is not too old... you don't even need to wear the fake belly. If people ask, you say she is adopted cause she needed a good home.

what does your daughter want?

"We're Protestants so abortion is not an option."

It's not your body. DD is (I may surmise) also Protestant, but sex was an option.

"we don't want the embarrassment of a teen mom"

Blessed Mary, Holy Mother of God was 15 when she had Jesus, so being Protestant means teen pregnancy is not out of the question. Furthermore, Holy Sarah Palin, Mother of all Hockey Moms, admitted to the world (or at least America, which in her eyes is the world), that her teenage daughter was pregnant. "We are family, these things happen".

What are the neighbours gonna say? Well, if my neighbour forced her daughter to surrender her child, I would never speak to her again. Fancy throwing your own grand child away. How cold-blooded, heartless, egoistic.

Did I say 'egoistic'? Reading your little piece of lament, I am struck by your terrible problem: you. It all centres around how YOU can get out of this problem. How about thinking like a responsible mother about your daughter and grandchild? As far as I know, Protestants are also allowed to be human. Make use of this possibility. Tell your neighbours. You may be amazed what response you get. They will not bar you from the church. Don't worry. DH is the pastor, anyway.

Do not let Christianity stop you from acting like a Christian. DH is a pastor, so let him take care of his sheep (this is what pastor means, it means shepherd) for a change.

And, though I totally disagree with S Palin's politics, I couldn't agree more on her embracing her daughter's child. These things happen. Breakfast cereal commercials are there to sell products, not to project the idea of the perfect family. The perfect family is the family that keeps the grandchild and admits to it.

The minute you hold your grandchild in your arms, you will forget about adoption.

http://www.keepyourbaby.com/special_message_for_gr...

So called Christians like you disgust me and you would have got on well with my mother is she was still alive.

Adoption? Should DH and I adopt DD baby or contact an agency? ~ You can't as the baby is your daughter's and you can't do anything as she is the mother of the child not you. It would be very wrong of you and very unchristian of you to bully her into surrendering. True Christians would encourage her to be a mother and support her until she is a postion to stand on her own two feet.

But we also don't want the embarrassment of a "teen mom". ~ Tough and as parents you should put your embarrassment to one side and support her.

Plus what kind of example would that set for her little sister? ~ One that says that she should have used protection.

And my DH is the Pastor of our church for crying out loud! ~ And? Your point is? Obviously YOU haven't done a very good job of explaining the consequences of having sex as even protection can fail.

(I don't even know how to punish her for this, any suggestions would be appreciated ~ Don't punish her as you're doing enough damage as it is by not wanting her to parent.

do we put the baby up for adoption or can my husband and I pass the baby off as ours? ~ And what planet are you on? You do not pass a grandchild off as your own as it is cruel to the child as well as your daughter. You can't stop the child finding out eventually and as Christians you know it is a sin to lie.

but am I too old for a newborn? Could I be convincing enough that it is ours? ~ Real Christians support their child, keep grandchildren in the family and don't lie to their cgrandchildren be passing themselves of as the parents.

Maybe if I purchased one of those inflatable maternity belly things? What do you think? Is it possible to pull this off or should we just quitely put the baby up for adoption though an agency? ~ You're sick

You do neither. You help your daughter parent HER child. As for an example for her little sister, little sister wil watch big sister struggle thru life, and will learn from her mistake.Don't EVEN bring up the embarrassment factor. Some people consider being married more than once qs a shame, so you have NO place to talk about someone else making a mistake.

keep your baby, put your daughter on birth control. you are DD stupid, double disgusting.