GH: Is Joe Jr. in denial about Kate/Connie?

I don't think Joe held her down and raped her like Kate described, heres what I think happened

I think "Connie" was already an alter, she invited Joe over for a hookup. When he came over he had no clue she had DID, so he proceeded to have sex with her, however mid way through when things got intense "Kate" came back, and screamed "NO", of course Joe ignored it and kept going.

Thats my theory on it, could be wrong

I think your take on Joe is spot on.

Maybe in Joe's mind sex with Connie was consensual. I am not sure the extent he is a sexual predator or if Joe just wanted to hurt Sonny in some way. I mean Sonny basically displaced Joe all those years ago when Sonny became Joe Sr's top man. Either way Joe seems to truly believe Connie "wanted it." Plus if you look at how Connie acts it might make people wonder. Like you there is no doubt in my mind it was rape and I am not blaming the victim - but when people hear Joe's account and they think of how Connie acts, I think it might make people like Trey and Tracy want to give Joe the benefit of the doubt.

Plus, he was such a gentleman to Tracy. He even gave her his share of the anti-dote so she could live when Jerry Jax contaminated the water. Further, he did a decent job raising Trey.

I was kind of hoping Joe would turn out to be a decent guy but look at the way he is so willing to use Trey. :(

some men can't deal with reality of rape

they blame the woman or just deny they did such a thing