Should I tell my sister my husband banned me from her home?

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my sister just hooked up with this guy, she brought him to our house to meet us.  We thought he was a bit weird, his convo, his clothes, ect.

Well turns out he told us a bunch of lies, we are all adults and that is a serious red flag, my sister say's she is in love.

After finding out that he lied to us about how many kids he had, and how old he was, were he grew up ect.. Then he moved right on into my sister's section 8 apt. and they are going to be married she says. My husband said I am not allowed over her house, and that she is not allowed at our house as he may come looking for her here, and he was upset at me, for allowing him to our house in the first place.

So anyway how do I explain this to my little sister, without starting a fight, we have a good sister relationship, but she is only 23 and ghetto and confrontational, and I am not.

Voluptuous · Accepted Answer

Yes you are right, serious red flag. Have you tried telling your sister about all the lies he told you & your husband that day he came over? If you have and she's completely brushing the lies off as if they are nothing or even cute...
Looks like your sister is going through a blind love phase, but trust me she'll soon get over it when things go down hill (which from how this guy sounds things will).
In the mean time i think you should talk to your husband, because him telling you that your band from her house is not right.This should be a decision that you both make together. This way when you talk to her it can be something you decided to do in order not to cause problems.
If you tell her that your husband says so and that's that, then she's going to be mad at you for a while & always have a dislike for your husband & i know you don't want that. 
Plus she'll have to respect your decision & it will get her thinking hard about why you made a drastic choice to re frame from being around her boyfriend.
Younger people go through this alot just make sure your there to help her pick up the pieces.

I took the time to think about what i wrote, hope this helps!

Anonymous · Answer

Guy sounds way to creepy If you can try running a background check on him on the Internet if you can't find anything don't think he's all clear he could be lying about his name as well. But I wouldn't doubt he has a criminal record with lying the way he does, I mean this guy could disappear with your sister and you would have absolutely nothing to track him with. I can understand your husband being uncomfortable with him in your house. This guy is bad news I mean seriously check wanted photos and see if he matches any of them, i wouldn't doubt if he was wanted by authorities.

? · Answer

I would not tell her that your husband doesn't want you in her home but do admit that the guy makes you uncomfortable and that he has a tendency to lie. After you tell her one time, what she does with that information is up to her. As someone else said just make sure you are there for her when things fall apart.

Anonymous · Answer

She will learn on her own. Just b there for her wjen it falls apart and leave the...i told u so out of it. Atleast tell her u are concerned but dnt push the issue. She is grown.

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