Should i have another baby now?

Go for it now.

My kids are 1,2 and 8. They are really close and all adore each other.

But at the same time my ex and his little sister are 10 yrs apart, and his middle sister is 8 yrs from his little sister.

They do not get along most of the time. The eldest kinda treat her like their own child instead of a sibling.

You are also getting to that age where if you don't have kids soon then it will be more difficult and you will begin to have age related risks to you and baby.

BTW, I am in the same boat as you are when I had my little ones. We also get hand me downs and WIC. Go for a play pen with a bassinet attachment rather than spending all that money on a crib.

People will tell you that they are recalled all the time. But it's been several years since the last recall of playpens and cribs keep getting recalled. And stand alone bassinets are a total waste of money.

EDIT: When we had our middle child my husband was making 11 an hour and I was unemployed. We did fine. With our youngest I was getting about 500 a month in disability and he was making 12 an hr. We are struggling but we are fine because we get hand me downs and shop garage sales and have WIC. I do suggest applying for food stamps if you feel the need.

Hi

If you think your ready to handle the sleepless nights, crying (sometimes for reasons even a mother of 10 cant figure), then there's no reason you should wait. You are right about the age gap - it shouldnt be too large apart.

Oh & since your youngest was born pretty long ago (i'd say), it MIGHT be a little tough adjusting to a newborn. But hey, babies have more advantages than disadvantages & it's soooo rewarding to look after one, they are amazing as you watch them grow before your eyes (I've got a 5month old & her new milestones are just so wonderful to discover).

Oh & you better think about the financial status first. If it's really bad or your not 100% sure then save up for few months at least before you can seriously consider going for another baby

Good luck n enjoy!!!!!!!!!

Babies aren't cheap, even if you get a lot of hand me downs. Your husband is right. It is a ba idea to have a baby when there are financial issues. I suggest if you are serious about having a baby soon, it's time to fix those financial issues. Take six months and do an intensive save and debt repayment plan. Work two jobs if you have to. It'll be short term and the rewards will be well worth it. Scrimp and save as much as you can. Once your situation is better, start trying. If you can, keep up the belt tightening until you actually give birth.

Good luck! I hope it works out

It is nearly impossible to be in the perfect place financially to have a baby. Yes you should try to get these financial issues ironed out but dont put your life on hold while doing it! It could take a year to get pregnant for all we know! Plus you then have another 10 months (9 by the time you find out) before the baby is born, you should be able to straighten these things out in 10 months+ the months it will take to get that little + sign on the hpt. I'd say start now by just throwing out the birth control and condoms and if it happens before the finances are fix then you work hard throughout your pregnancy to fix them!

I say give yourself another six months to a year to get more financially stable and go for it. I know that people say that babies are expensive but I have six children without assistance and we are nowhere near rich! I have found they are only as expensive as you want them to be. Of course you have to buy diapers, wipes, and some necessary items but there are ways to cut the cost. Each time I was pregnant I started buying one pack of diapers each week in different sizes, I didn't have to buy any diapers the whole first year after each child! Use coupons for formula. Breastfeeding doesn't cost anything. My kids all wear name brand clothing but I hardly pay anything for them. I buy them at the Goodwill, Once Upon a Child (consignment shop with only name brand clothing), yard sales (I am very selective an get good stuff), also I buy clearance items for them for the next year. I hang on to slot and pass it down. Toys you can find cheap at all of the same places I mentioned above (they don't play with them long anyway and usually end up tearing them up eventually). Nobody knows where their things come from except for me. We do buy some new things for them and go all out for Christmas and birthdays. I always get good shoes for them new, but have learned how to shop without breaking us. They get the things they need and want just cheaper!

ok , i respect the above comment , the border is 29 so plan for baby at the age of 29 and fix your finance asap and the should be ready on or before your 30, that will be a peacefull life , i have seen couples getting a baby at 40 aswell but thats not fair

Ultimately it's how your husband feels. Trying to push him into something he isn't happy with will only add stress into what is a very emotional decision

You need to discuss the pros and cons together and take the time to seriously consider how bad your finances are, again limiting finances can add stress

i would say if you were finacially stable, go for it... but if not... i'd wait.. although accidents happen.

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