I have never had a guy friend, what am I doing wrong?

DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT! You're normal. Guys and girls aren't really meant to be "friends." I know that sounds harsh, but trust me, it's true.

First some good news. The fact that some of the guys approach you for ulterior motives as you put it, means that you are attractive. This doesn't specify how attractive or unattractive but, good enough to date. i.e.e not ugly.

Now to your main question. Well, its really hard for men and woman to be friends in a platonic way. Can it happen? yes. Does it happen? also yes. But, is it the same type of friendship that men have with men and woman with woman? NNNOOOOOO!!!. Having "friends" of the opposite sex was something that was not a big deal when we where kids but,once we get to adulthood it simply doesn't work so well. Let me give you a scenario that will explain why friendship between opposite sex doesn't work so well. Lets say you are older and have a husband. This husband of yours loves fishing. He loves it so much that every now and then he takes a weekend trip. By that I mean he leaves early Saturday morning and doesn't come back till late Sunday. So far so good right. No big deal as long as its not every weekend. Ok, so he doesn't like to be by himself but its an activity that you don't like plus you have other obligations. So, he says to you "honey, I'm leaving for my trip. Bob is coming with me and we will be back tomorrow at 7pm. So far not a big deal. However, what if instead of Bob he said Joan, Jennifer, Michell or whatever female friend? Will you be ok with that? Are you ok that your husband spends the night with a female friend? I mean they are just friends right? What could go wrong? Most people would protest rather loudly. Men and woman simply can't be super close friends. It doesn't mean ever. It just means that there is a wall of separation. An invisible wall. It is not strickly enforced but it is always there. When you see men and woman being friend often times is because they are friend of friends or friend of a family member. For example I may be friend with y wife friend or her friend sister but, me being friend with that other woman without my wife is not so comfortable? I don't call my neighbors wife and ask her to hang out. Its just one of those things.

SO, that was the adult reason. There is a younger immature reason too. That is to say girls are annoying as heck. Ofcourse, girls will also say that men are annoying as heck too. I'm a boy so I like doing boy things. i don't particularly enjoy doing girl things. Sometimes my boy interest coincide with girl interest so I can take that opportunity to share. If for example I as a boy want to go to the race track to see cars drag race but, you want to go shoe shopping, well, that's a conflict of interest. If you don't enjoy cars and car related activity why would you want to hang out with me?

If you want to have more male friends then you have to take an interest in boy activities.

at the same time as I understand that you want your pal to "relax," i'm not efficient doing some thing that is technically unlawful is the type of sturdy theory. quite of seeing his "under no circumstances doing some thing incorrect" as a foul component, you're able to be pleased with him. maximum young children (and people typically) do not have sufficient integrity to do the right component lots of the time. some everyone is in simple terms evidently extra quiet. quite than sneaking into an R rated action picture, which sounds like he'd be uncomfortable with that, do some thing adventurous. the first component that popped in my head change into to get some extra people and do a huge image scavenger hunt round city (digital mail me for further information the thanks to attempt this. I did it in college so i recognize it is great relaxing!). you'll want help out of your mom and father possibly. i imagine he'd have various of relaxing with that, and it would require him to speak with you men extra. sturdy success!

Most guys that age just want some vag so get used to it unless u find a gay guy for a friend

Just talk to them like any other friend... just don't talk about makeup/hair/magazines etc.

More on neutral topics like school, sports, how your day was

Your not doing anything wrong! You just need to start a conversation like any person was (don't think of it as a boy OR a girl friendship).

People probs won't talk to you if you don't start a convo

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Same with me! I don't know what wrong with me (sorry not much help at least your not alone) just enjoy the friends you have though who cares if there boys or girls

Its okay misty guys or age just want to get in our pants so not having any is good but then there are a few who are good do you just be yourself around them

Find a coed soccer game and join in

talk to guys but not in a flirty way

Hey...I'm 14 ;)