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Why don't girls like me?

I'm in my late 20s and I've never had a girlfriend or even a kiss, and no girls have ever shown any romantic interest in me. Most people get some kind of interest shown in them at some point in their lives, but not me.

I'm a big nerd but I try to look normal and I work out and try to look nice for the ladies. I'm a quiet person but I'm nice and can be funny after people get to know me.

How am I supposed to get a girlfriend at this age when I've got absolutely no experience? It gets pretty lonely at night. :(

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  • 9 years ago
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    your probably thinking no one else is like you and everyone has had a girlfriend or been kissed by your age, but really it just seems that way because people either lie or don't talk about it. My advice is to not focus so much on wanting a girlfriend or to date someone, and to just get out, join clubs you like, do things that interest you and other people. Once your meeting new people, try not to think so much about what you think they're thinking about you. I know its hard at first, but you'll build skills and get accustomed to it soon enough. Then before you know it one of your new friendships could lead to something more! just don't try too hard to find a relationship. You dont need another person in your life to make you happy, its just a bonus if you find a person to share your life with. But either way, its YOUR life and happiness should come from within yourself. Good luck and hope this helped :)

  • Geoff
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    It's tough to say when I don't know you, but as awkward as it might be for you, I think you should just ask your friends - especially female acquaintances. Ask them why they think it hasn't happened yet: Are you doing anything wrong? Do you not look approachable? Is it the way you talk to girls? If they don't come up with anything, and you're sure they were being honest, then maybe the problem is simply that YOU haven't been doing the approaching. (Also, what Jennifer said.)

    Also, don't worry about being inexperienced. Everything about a person can be perceived as one side of the same coin when evaluating their viability as a mate. Yes, there may be some downsides to be inexperienced, but there are upsides as well. She won't have any crazy ex girlfriends to worry about, she won't have to worry that you aren't over one of your exes, she won't have to worry about your behavior around other women when you go on a boy's night out, she might relish the thought of being the first girl to have you, etc. Then, on the flip side, there are advantages to being experienced, but there are disadvantages as well - namely, the opposite of the advantages of being inexperienced. These don't change with age.

  • M.B.
    Lv 5
    9 years ago

    Try joining an activity group that has similar interests. (Kayaking, Snowboarding, etc)

    Many of these will either have women in them or you end up meeting friends of the people in the group.

    Try looking on Meet Up.

    Bars are not good places to meet someone beyond a hookup.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    BE MORE CONFIDENT

    GIRLS CAN SENSE WHEN A GUY IS NOT CONFIDENT

    SERIOSLY I KNOW LOADS OF UGLY GUYS WITH DECENT LOOKING GIRLS

    ITS ALL ABOUT THE ATTITUDE AND THE WAY U PRESENT URSELF

    GET SOME NICE CLOTHES

    GET A HAIRCUT

    WATCH UR HYGIENE

    GET A SENSE OF HUMOUR AND BE FUNNY AND MAKE JOKES

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  • 9 years ago

    Socialise 24/7. You got no other choice but to meet lots n lots of girls n hopefully land one.

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