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Speaking at Mum's wedding advise?

My mother's getting married in December this year, and as her father is no longer around I'll be giving her away, and I'll also be making a speech during the dinner/drinks part of the evening.

This is aimed at anyone who's either been in a similar position, or been at a wedding (maybe your own!) where the person who gave the bride away made a speech:

What of speech is expected of me? Is it just a short "thanks for coming", or it a more drawn out one where I'd either be sharing a short story on the bride, or something of the sort?

How long should the speech be? Can you think of any examples of speeches I could reference from?

I would Google this myself but I don't know what the name of my role is called...

Thank you for any and all advice, it is much appreciated!

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  • Paula
    Lv 7
    9 years ago
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    Since you said "Mum", I'm guessing you're in UK, Australia or NZ. Generally here (I'm in Australia) the tradition is the speech goes a few minutes, like 3-5 minutes. (USA tends to keep them shorter as far as I can tell).

    Generally you talk a bit about the bride (your mother), and maybe propose a toast. I find it best to (1) introduce yourself, (2) tell one or two funny/sweet stories, and (3) wish the couple well. The stories can be a little bit embarassing, but nothing humilating; and you should avoid mentioning anything she or the groom wouldn't want to here, e.g. romantic involvement with exes. (Though a passing reference to your father might be hard to avoid). If the stories involve her husband that's nice.

    For more ideas, google "father of the bride toast" or "father of the bride" speech, because that is what you are effectively doing. Also take note of where the web site is based.

  • 9 years ago

    Once you have given her away your status reverts to 'son'.

    Of course, as the Father usually gives away the Bride and then, in the Reception, has the Father/Daughter dance, that should be pretty interesting.

    You are free to make any speech you want, though I do recommend two things.

    1: Not embarrassing.

    2: Use the KISS method. Keep It Short and Sweet.

    There is another version of the KISS method. It is the 3 Ups.

    1: To be seen, stand up.

    2: To be heard, speak up.

    3: To be appreciated, shut up. ;-)

    Enjoy the day. It is, quite literally, one that will never come again for you.

  • 9 years ago

    I wouldnt get too serious with this.

    I would just perhaps tell a short funny story about the couple or I would simply say that I am very happy for them, you can see how happy X is making your mother and you are happy to welcome him into the family.

    Doesnt have to be a long thing like in the movies.

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