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I haven't found the right one?
I am a 20 year old gay male. I have been single since May of this year, after going through a bitter break up with my boyfriend of two years. I have not really been involved with more than a couple guys since then, but it wasn't serious, and only lasted a month or so. Not to give tmi, or be graphic- but I had not been sexually active since I was with my boyfriend. However, last week, I met a guy and long story short, we ended up having sex at his house. Later that same evening, I felt so wrong, and just really upset because I got carried away and basically let someone use me, and then the thoughts of my ex and our issues started overwhelming me, and I just was tired and went to bed upset. Since then, I have had little to no sex drive. I have just lost my physical, and emotional interest in men- I thought maybe something snapped in me, and I realized I wasn't gay- but, I am not attracted to women. I have no feelings for women, and that has never changed. Could this be depression, or low sex drive? Could I be asexual, or even just emotionally overwhelmed by not finding the right person? Idk, it feels so weird, and I don't feel like myself, and it is upsetting. Anyone with similar experiences, or advice on how to handle this is appreciated. Thank you.
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- 9 years agoFavorite Answer
You're dealing with a really bad breakup. I've been there.
You obviously loved this guy deeply, care a lot about him (enough to influence your emotional composure) and got depressed about making love with another guy because in some way you felt you were "cheating" on your ex. Even though your broken up, you still love him and it's hard to let go. You're depressed to the point where now you're saying your not gay despite having no attraction to women and identifying as gay.
You're going through a hard transition of being with someone to now finding yourself single. It'll get better. Try to really think about the situation. Was it for the best that you broke up? If not and you still want him, try to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. If it is best ur not together, accept that and move on. Honestly, I know how you feel. The time you spend thinking about your ex is time you could spend letting yourself be open to someone better finding you
- Ovaltine JenkinsLv 79 years ago
You're not properly over the break up, & the more impatient you get when it comes to guys the worse it gets. Don't expect it to be perfect the first time. Chances are it took you a while to finally get with your ex so it's going to take just as much time if not longer the next time around. Don't rush. Perhaps you just need a break from relationships in general. Focus on other things & it'll happen naturally. When you're happy, people gravitate to you & somewhere in that crowd of people is someone you could fall in love with.
