Where should I turn for help?

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Thank you in advance if you actually read it and offer an opinion, I'll answer any of yours as thoughtfully as I can.

I've been going through a fairly dark downward spiral recently. I was introduced to drugs, which is slightly the problem but not nearly all of it. It mainly stems from a girl, imagine that. I told her that I didn't believe in love, based on my childhood and how f*cked up it was growing up. She didn't understand my side and well that was basically the end of us. Recently I have fallen hard for her, and told her how I felt, laid it all out on the line. She rejected me, now I'm pretending like I don't have feelings anymore and she is coming to me for advice about guys. I love her to death and want to be her friend if nothing else. But with this whole situation and doing coke, and m, and anything I can get my hands on, I'm afraid my life is going downhill. I have a great job, but no one I trust enough to say this to. If anyone I would actually talk to said girl, but that wouldn't really solve anything I don't think.

I can't tell my family about my drugs, but they would understand better the girl situation. I don't have any close friends that would understand the girl situation but they may be less judgmental about the drugs. It's just hard to not have someone for all of it, because it does link together. Should I see a therapist? It just seems like they won't understand any of it, I need advice not just someone to say these words to. Where do I turn?

(Don't mention religion please)

Ess Kay · Accepted Answer

Dear friend...
1-I don't know much about drugs and what drugs cause what kind of symptoms when you try to leave them. One thing is for SURE- PLEASE stop the drugs immediately. They will gnaw your body, mind and soul.
 2-Try a help group in your area, see a therapist (read online reviews first-all therapists are not good...they will burn a hole in your pocket and still do nothing.)
3-PULL YOUR ACT TOGETHER...You are are your own best friend. You know your weaknesses and strengths the best. Just take care- TAKE RELEVANT STEPS when there's still time and when there's still strength within you...with time, the scales will tip in the favor of weaknesses and then it will be too late... DO SOMETHING.
4-FIRST solve the drug solution...then tackle the girl thing...tell her that SHE HAS RADICALLY CHANGED YOUR VIEWS ABOUT LOVE...Most girls LOVE the chance to reform a man...share some of your weaknesses with her...and then ACTUALLY REFORM...Girls don't like losers, okay?!!
5- Religion is just a state of mind-religion is WALKING ON THE PATH OF GOODNESS...Don't deny yourself the POSITIVE ENERGY OF GOODNESS, my friend...Please think about it!!

lala · Answer

I would give you the BEST advice that you will never receive ; but you will not follow it 

You have to check yourself in a detox for  drug addiction 
Coke will RUIN your life for SURE 
If you think ; you can keep this addiction in check ; you are delusional 
You have a good job ; but believe me ; you are going to loose it ;;; sooner than later 
About the girl ; I cannot blame her ; I would NEVER date a guy who is in coke 
And if you think you are in a dark down spiral ;; you have seen nothing yet ;;; the drug will put you on the street and in trouble with the law 
I have a relative who in coke and he totally destroy his life ; and believe ; you will NOT be  a exception 

Plus do not think your parents will nEVER discover your addiction ; because YES they know about it 
Someone will tell them or they will notice a big change in your behaviour

the_last_nugget · Answer

Don't come to the internet for help....

You know what a "better" person would do - just do that.

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