where should I go for help?

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Thank you in advance if you actually read it and offer an opinion, I'll answer any of yours as thoughtfully as I can.

I've been going through a fairly dark downward spiral recently. I was introduced to drugs, which is slightly the problem but not nearly all of it. It mainly stems from a girl, imagine that. I told her that I didn't believe in love, based on my childhood and how f*cked up it was growing up. She didn't understand my side and well that was basically the end of us. Recently I have fallen hard for her, and told her how I felt, laid it all out on the line. She rejected me, now I'm pretending like I don't have feelings anymore and she is coming to me for advice about guys. I love her to death and want to be her friend if nothing else. But with this whole situation and doing coke, and m, and anything I can get my hands on, I'm afraid my life is going downhill. I have a great job, but no one I trust enough to say this to. If anyone I would actually talk to said girl, but that wouldn't really solve anything I don't think.

I can't tell my family about my drugs, but they would understand better the girl situation. I don't have any close friends that would understand the girl situation but they may be less judgmental about the drugs. It's just hard to not have someone for all of it, because it does link together. Should I see a therapist? It just seems like they won't understand any of it, I need advice not just someone to say these words to. Where do I turn?

(Don't mention religion please)

W Alex T · Accepted Answer

No religion. That only helps if you can stomach blind faith. I've been in a similar position quite a few years ago. Dealt and did weed, pills, acid, coke and nearly drank myself to death while jumping from chick to chick. There must be 15 or more chicks I slept with and partied with that I couldn't tell you their names if I tried. More that I do remember, happily. What you need is a few or group of people that you can talk to who have had similar experiences. I know that you will probably roll your eyes and groan but do yourself a favor before you get even deeper and go online an find a local Narcotic Anonymous meeting. You don't have to say a word or even talk to anyone just listen a little and check it out. By the way, the best part of the meeting are before and after that's when you can talk to the people that have specifically similar issues as yours. Anything you share there is kept in strict confidence. No parents No cops No bosses, just help if you want it. Trust me been there buddy.

Emily · Answer

I suggest you either get off the drugs by yourself, or go to rehab. Drugs will make things harder to deal with... and mess up your life bad. I understand about the love thing. I didn't believe. Then out of nowhere appears this guy and bam I'm instantaneously in love. Things worked out though. I also believe since this girl means so much and it's hurting you so bad, that you need to talk to someone about how to cope with it. That's hard to deal with. I really hope you can turn your life around. If you feel uncomfortable about her talking about other guys, you need to tell her that also. She needs to understand that you still have feelings for her. Good luck.

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