Just a feeling something is wrong with this guy.. and I can't put my finger on it?

You know this is just an unfortunate situation. It means that there is no chemistry between the two of you. I don't think its because it started online. My relationship started online, I flew to see him and we were better in person then we were over the internet. We had been talking for almost 8 months and now we are in an official relationship. I do think you leaped into the marriage thing. Now that you have met and have witnessed yourself that things don't flow why continue this?

Do you really want to be with someone who makes you feel cold and awkward? No! Marriage is supposed to be the greatest decision of your life, not the one that you end up regretting forever. The hard part is letting him know that this is not what you had thought it would be. I am not going to lie that will be very hard and you know it, I don't even have to tell you. But would you rather end things now where you tried it in person and realized it didn't work or find yourself in a passionless marriage and having to tell your husband that you are filing for divorce?

Trust your gut. If there's anything I've learned about life is that you trust your heart. Trust that voice that whispers to you yes or no. Do not go against what you know is not wrong because you will wind up in a dark place that you could have avoided and you have no one else to blame but yourself. That's a horrible thing to love with.

You need to break up.

As much as there is good communication through a screen, if there is no ATTRACTION it will fail. You need both components to start off a good relationship.

You already know what to do, good luck.

WE need to back off because this guy has another girlfriend and he don't want too tell his other girlfriend that you are his girlfriend he wants too tell her your just a friend that is what i think.

So tell you your not ready yet after all. you have decided to stay in the states for a while until you can get things in order. and then we will go from their/there.

Yeah it sounds like his sister don't want this or something like that.

or maybe he is just not into you as much as you thought he was.

or maybe he loves you so much but he don't want to talk about it.

If i had a girlfriend I would give her a big k*ss a big Hug.

my thoughts. not worth much but these are my thoughts i have for u.

Honey leave him before he comes to USA. I was in your shoe 5 years ago exactly same thing happened to me. I used to live in USA and met a guy online who lived in Australia. We had a year long distance relationship mostly Skype and yahoo type and few phone calls. We met after a year to his native country and he insisted to get married and proposed to our family. I was very confused back then yet went with the flow because I didn't want to hurt him.

The first meeting we had was awful. He wasn't nothing comparing to what he was online. It was stupid. Sad part is we got married and now I'm stuck with his horrible lifestyle. He's not passionate neither loving. He's the worst nightmare I ever could have imagine from a man. I even left USA to be with him now I regret everything I did for this man. I wish I could go back and change everything. It has been little over 4 years we are married and it feels very out of place to be with this man.

Please leave him and find someone in USA. Don't trust this man. Don't make a mistake like me ditch that man. You can't even stand him now how are you going to tolerate him for rest of your life? Please please dumb him. Engagement is much more easier to break than a marriage. So be wise and leave him ASAP.

He's a lying, cheap skate, looking for US citizenship. RUN, do not walk, as fast as you can away from this guy. Listen to that little voice and save yourself!

A perfect example of someone meeting someone online, think they've fallen "in luv" only to find when they meet face-to-face there's no connection or real attraction...

Don't waste any more of your time or his in this situation...be honest and tell him you two aren't a good match after all, and gently end it and move on...

Learn the lesson, and in the future build the relationship face-to-face before deciding you want to date, marry, live together, etc...

You have a false relationship built in a computer fantasy world. He might as well be an avatar. Trust your instincts and delay this marriage until you get to know this guy.

You need to be with a person and use all five senses and watch the body language. So all you have at this point is a computer introduction, some computer data points, and one physical date.

Yours would be like an arranged marriage but with a computer involved. You probably wouldn't spend $500 on a pair of shoes you had seen on the internet. You would want to go look at them, feel them and try them on.

So if you would do this with shoes, why would you base a marriage on a computer image?

There are people on the other side of the Globe that will try anything/everything they can just to get here.

This! Is what it sounds like!

He says he has not much with girls?

I got swamp land I can sell you at the North Pole!!!!!

The thing you need to understand!

Is this!

When you are on the net.

People can and do become anyone they want to be.

It sounds like his motives are to get here.

And then who knows?

Break it off ASAP/POST HASTE!!!!!

End it now while you can. If something feels wrong, do something about it. You don't want to get into something that doesn't feel right. It's better to break up now than pull a kim k and get divorced after a few months. Talk about a legal headache

You cannot possibly know a person well enough via skype and the internet to become engaged to them,there is a massive difference between that and actual physical meeting and contact with a person and he is obviously not right for you,you needed to spend time with him in reality to find that out.

If you ask me he is using you,okay there is nothing wrong with you paying for coffee,this is a modern world we live in but the guy speaks to you on the internet for one year,doesn't care if other guys are interested in you,gets engaged and is waiting for a visa.

Can you see all that is wrong here? He does not need to pressure you about the visa because he thinks you are just happily going along with it but i feel that is his goal and what he wants and besides you don't even feel comfortable around him so you cannot possibly stay with him.

You have a bad feeling and you need to listen to it,i would honestly tell him it is not working out for you and that it is over,there is no other option.