Why is biological more important to me than it should?

If you want to do both then do both. I shouldn't cause a problem unless you let there be one. It is understandable to want to past down your genes. I guess you want to pass down some of you. If thats what you want go ahead and you can do both with no problem. But I would talk with your partner. Don't forget it will be his kids too so you and him have to make the decision together.

My Partner and I did want children when we were younger but she could never approve of a donor and by the time she finally came around my medical problems were bad enough that I chose not to because of all the drugs I was on. (RA/Lupus). We live in Wisconsin and the State has just approved adoption for Gay parents. We could have fostered but that's never permanent and the one time we would have had our nephew and niece in custody (because their Dad was/is a drunken bum) he refused to sign over the papers because he didn't want the children raised in **that sort** of environment. Now both kids are in trouble and making themselves nusenses(sic) for the State. (SIGH).

I would suggest that you adopt while you're considering one of your own. There are so many children who need homes and think of what a positive role model you and your Partner could be for them. All it takes is Love. Give your Love to a kid who needs it and then have one of your own.

If you are not sure that you are ready to adopt a child, please don't.

We are talking about his/her whole life here. So if you have the slightest doubt, don't do it.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a biological child. If that's what you want, you should go for it.

You are not morally obligated to adopt a child without parents. Its a great thing to do if you can, but not doing it doesn't make you a bad person.

So do what you feel is best. Don't do what other tell you to.

I personally don't want kids, but my ex was the same way. Kept saying he loved me and wanted to be with me, but he had the urge to have a woman kids etc. Having a woman give birth to the child is one thing, but saying he felt an urge to have a family with a woman and all this bothered me. Shortly broke up with him, but it wasn't in vein we were just too different. He was confused about his sexuality and what he really wanted while I was already out to everyone and didn't give a sh*t. Didn't want kids either. He was raised very family orientated. I however wasn't. He was raised in a good family I wasn't. Everything to the bitter details were the complete opposite. This is your choice though not some random question asking site that is full of opinions and trolls you need to go with your heart.

I was raised by my biological mother and I so very much wish I had been given up for adoption I can taste it and I am now 50 years old, my childhood was miserable with her, if you can provide a loving family for an adopted child do it

There are so many unwanted kids in this world, why bring more children here when we can adopt the ones here already?