Boyfriend is acting hot and cold about our future?

AGE?

So much is determined by age and status in life, and education.

There is an old saying about why buy the cow when you can get it for free. Old sayings are generally based in some truths.

Why bump up the stakes if he has everything he wants WITH you right there WITH no serious commitment.

He spoke that way because he missed you over summer AND now he does not miss you.

Time to have The Talk with him, pointing out that his words and his actions do not seem to match and you want him to explain. 'You said this this and this. Now you're doing this that and the other which makes me wonder if you are still committed ...' etc. You have to confront him - he's the only one who knows. Don't settle for reassuring words, but insist that if he means what he says he will *do* certain specific things. Be prepared to cut your losses and walk away - it is easy to think how many years you've invested in this relationship and you don't want them to go to waste; but those years have gone and the question is if you're going to be wasting the years which lie in the future. A less drastic step may be to say that you want to be on your own and that he has to make up his mind. But you've got to get him to tell you what's going on in his head.

Maybe he is saving up for a ring as a surprise for you and has stopped all the talk about your future cuz he doesnt want you to know. But some of the other answers are correct, you gotta talk to him about it. Sit him down and make him talk!

Do not think about marriage with this guy...getting pregnant either.

He's surely not ready and you have doubts.

I think you should start considering your own future until you are established (career, savings, decent car, etc)

During this time you should evaluate if this guy is into you as much as you're into him.

Future reference, you ask these things before you move in