Problem ejaculating during sex, but not masterbation?

I'm just gonna throw it out there in the center...

You mentioned that you can have an ejaculation during masturbationon. The reason this is the case, is because when a person masturbates, they usually use movies, magizines or mental images of their fantasy person to reach climax.

When you're with your wife, you know what to expect. Not that you don't find her hot, it's just not like when you're with the fantasy girl.

Try going a few months without masturbating and see what happens. If you restrict your fantasies to a lower degree, you'll be right back where you wanna be.

The standard ED drugs don't help with the process of ejaculation- and in some cases can delay it. They only help with developing and maintaining an erection. Is this a problem of adequate friction? Is it possible that you do not get enough penile stimulation during intercourse? If you are accustomed to masturbating in a certain manner to achieve an orgasm, the problem might simply be that intercourse is not enough friction to accomplish the job.

Other possibilities could be psychological. Do you feel pressured to perform to certain standards when having sex with your wife? Does it make you nervous when the act seems to be going on too long? Do you start feeling that you had better "reach a conclusion" before your wife gets frustrated? It could be performance anxiety but focused on the orgasm as opposed to the actual performance. It could also be passive aggressive behavior. Are you feeling resentment toward your wife that is being expressed through your sexual activity? Nothing is so dismaying to a woman as to think that she does not excite a man, and if you can't orgasm with her- you are displaying that she is not quite enough to get you off.

I am no psychologist, but I worked urology, and these are questions that would be asked of men who had difficulty achieving orgasm. If the problem persists a urologist would be a good place to start. Good luck.

You just might be nervous.