How do I politely refuse Wine coming into my home ?

My teachers always tell me, when a stranger approaches you with some kind of offsite drug deals; say no and go.

You just need to put your foot down and POLITELY tell her.

For example, "I'm so sorry, There must have been a misunderstanding when we discussed this earlier. This WILL be an alcohol free event. So, I must INSIST that you do NOT bring any wine. But, if you really want to bring something besides wine, here are some ideas ___________"

EDIT: The thing that I think that a lot of people are overlooking or refuse to acknowledge is...Her house, her party, her rules. Plain and simple.

When I am invited to someone's home, I respect THEIR rules whether I agree with them or not...just as I expect them to abide by mine at my parties. If, for some reason, I can't do as they ask, then 'I' politely decline the invitation.

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It seems some people don't think of wine as alcohol, others think you're not having wine because you're cheap, but if they provide the wine, it's okay, and others simply can't face the thought of a totally sober evening.

I meet them at the door and say, "You'll need to leave that in the car. We won't be drinking it." One man protested. "What?" he said. "Cough syrup has as much alcohol as this wine!" I said, "Well, we won't be drinking cough syrup either." I finally had to tell him that he and his wife were very welcome at my house but the wine was not. He took it to the car, they stayed for a short while, and left.

Your house, your rules. Do you ever allow alcohol in your house? Either way if you don't want it your friend should respect your wishes.

I do disagree with your puritanical view on alcohol. My wife and I drink beer and wine responsibly with our kids present and on occasion, we even let them try a little (which is perfectly legal in the state where I live).

But it's your life and you live it as you see fit.

I wish you had said why you are so determined that no alcoholic beverage can enter your home. Without that information, I'm not sure what to think, but I can think of no reason why it would do any harm for one person to bring and drink some wine with dinner. I don't see what the presence of children has to do with anything. They will not be drinking the wine. Children all over the world spend time in their homes in the presence of adults who are drinking wine and it does them no harm.

You haven't mentioned why you insist on no alcohol in your home.

Why not buy some simple wine glasses to keep at home and when people bring wine, pour it for them and not you.

Trash the rest when they leave.

Your job as the host is to make your guests feel comfortable.Start working on that .

What do the children have to do with it? Just because there's wine in the house doesn't mean they're going to drink it...

My you are a major control freak, aren't you? If no one else drinks, what does it matter to you? Unless you aren't telling us something. So she brings it? So what? If it gets opened and no one drinks the she wasted a bottle. Big deal.

I wonder why you ever bother to have a dinner party as you sound like a lousy host and friend. The only one who should be embarrassed is you.

Sometimes being rude is the right thing to do.