Seniors, what did you think about Dear Abby's opinion on posting personal info on Y!A?

Here's the Q & Abby's answer:

Dear Abby

POSTED: Wednesday, December 12, 2012, 3:00 AM

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 14 years to a man who had two failed marriages. I never felt insecure until I read his answers to a Yahoo Answers poll that asked, "Do you dream about the one that got away?" and, "Have you found the love of your life?"

My husband responded that he thinks about her very often, especially on her birthday and Valentine's Day. To the other question, he replied he had found the love of his life, but the relationship had ended in divorce, which he admitted was his fault.

I know he was talking about his first wife. I feel so sad and insecure. Now I must deal with the fact that on Valentine's Day, his thoughts are with someone else. How can I get over this?

- Sad Heart in San Jose

DEAR SAD HEART: Your husband posted those thoughts on a public forum? Rather than feel hurt and insecure, you should be furious. How would he feel if the person answering that poll had been you? However, your pain may lessen if you look at the bright side: He treats you well 363 days a year, and many women are not so lucky.

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YA seems to be a fairly anonymous forum. Dear Abby is a syndicated column, and that usually requires the writer sign his/her letter. I'd say hubby was more discreet than wifey. Dear Abby isn't a very good place to get advice. The original "Dear Abby's" kids that write the column, seem to have been raise in some sort of social vacuum, or a world with nothing but an ideal social environment, and failed grasp of reality. I better quit before I start ranting about "advice" columns. They are worse that "fortune tellers".

My first thought is how she knew it was her husband if he used an alias, unless he shared his alias with her, and in that case he is extremely stupid. My second thought was "I wonder if he posts regularly on Seniors Yahoo Answers"

People post personal thoughts all the time on Yahoo Answers, it's nothing new and if the columnist read all the questions for just one day she would know that what he posted is tame in comparison to what some of the young people post about sex.

Yes it is a hazard posting things on here, because when you least suspect it. Somethings may come back and bite hard. All this stuff is archived and can be retrieved for others to see later at any time. There is absolutely no privacy left at all.

I didn't even know YA existed a few years ago until I was searching for something -- can't remember what now -- but something came up and I read the answer and thought what is this Answers? And here I am...with a billion points now because I've answered so many questions.

It really served my purpose at the time to sit on here and answer them but now it's an addiction.

She could be familiar. Many of the answers here do come up in the research bases.

As far as personal thoughts, unless the person is posting with his real name there is really no way to identify him.

Abby was pretty savvy. If YA was around then, she probably did know about it. I bet she'd have a few choice things to say about Facebook!

Hmm - sounds fishy to me.

If this couple knows each other's avatar/nom da plume then it's foolish in the extreme to reveal such personal information/details of inner feelings the 'partner' can read.

Doesn't ring true, does it ?

Dear Abby is shallow at best and not able to answer in any form of reality.

The whole thing sounds impossible unless he told her. I think it is bogus.