Do not know what to do about my almost 2 year old?

This is not unusual - the 'terrible twos' can start any time from about eighteen months. Separation anxiety often happens around the same time. Both are completely normal, but frustrating when they happen at the same time - and very confusing for the child. She is exerting her independence on one hand, trying to find out where the boundaries are and trying to make sense of the world, but at the same time she's learned that you can leave her, and it's devastating for her - so she needs you with her all the time. If she isn't yet talking much, the only way she can express it is through crying.

What she needs is LOTS of hugs, lots of reassurance, lots of time spent reading calming books, playing games, doing whatever she enjoys. Not TV obviously - she's still far too young for any screen time - but activities that reinforce your closeness. Unfortunately spanking her will have driven a wedge already; she may not remember the actuality, but she'll subconsciously have started being afraid. Spanking is a terrible thing to do to any child, particularly one so young :-( However, with plenty of love and reassurance, she may be able to forget about it and will eventually grow out of this phase.

As for the toilet - this is classic passive aggression, which I'm afraid is another typical result of having been spanked. She's too young to have figured out the logic, of course, but it's one way she can keep control. I suggest you keep it VERY low-key. Just say, 'Oops, you pooped again. Let's put you in the bath...' and clean her up calmly. Then, after a few weeks when you make no more comment about it, remind her that if she poops on the toilet she can keep on the same clothes, and the poop will make a nice splash in the water. That works for many children, but if not just continue being calm and low-key, and wait a bit longer. 22 months is pretty young to be using the potty at all, so you might even consider putting her back in nappies/diapers for a few months until she tells you she's ready.

She is going through a phase. You still need to enforce rules though. Most toddlers will do this at some point in time. Spanking at this age probably is not the best. Once she is about 4-6. Try bribes. It worked for my niece.

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Anyway dont be afraid to hold your ground. she will soon get there its just a stage shes going through and she will comeout of it. Have you tried a rewards chart? i have recently tried that and it works a charm. and the rewards dont have to be lollies or food etc, it can be about going somewhere specail like going to the zoo or the local pools or the park to fly a kite etc. d reward her with something she loves doing.

for bath time try make it an exciting time of the day and put glitter or food colouring in the water to make it look pretyy and exciting.

hope it all goes well, good luck. :)

Well.... it can be either of these: she acting out in such a manner to grasp your attention, therefore i advice you to spend some quality time with her, she may have being abused, hence the running away from the toilet, or hard crying, or she could be developing some unhealthy qualities

Welcome to the Terrible Twos. It's a totally normal phase and will pass.

The belt will stop it, you need to take control your the mommy. Dont be afraid to let your little girl know who is the boss.

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