Sister-in-law doesn't eat Christmas food?

DO you not get on very well with her generally? Surely you can have a civil chat about how you can adapt something to her needs, or can make a side "something" she can eat with vegetables or whatever- it sounds to me like there is an underlying problem of communication or else feeling "in control" of the situation, She maybe feels anxious because her food fussiness sets her apart at gatherings like this, and you clearly want to extend your hospitality and find a good compromise.

Sorry I don't have a perfect answer but I'm sure you can find a good solution whereby neither party feels on edge or "put out".

If the issues she has with food are very deep seated, don't feel bad if allowing her to bring her own thing will ensure she feels comfortable and relaxed about attending....maybe you can find out what dessert or treat she might be tempted by that you can make?

Some sister-in-law you are turning out to be! This is the holiday time. Tis the season to be pleas'n. You can either make her a special meal or accept her bringing her own food. I'm kind of like that. I try to be healthy losing weight and eating a certain way mostly organic. I don't mind bringing my food elsewhere and people accept this because they are compassionate. You shouldn't expect others to follow your path. There are different paths and they also must lead to love. Accept her openly and try your hardest to understand what will make her happy. You are actually the person who is not accepting someone's different point of view. And, over what? F O O D. Tell her to bring what she needs to bring and learn what will make her happy. In the end you are being the wonderful caregiver you really are deep inside.

Don't push her away. Be inviting. Let her bring her own food. Try to make the day as enjoyable as possible. Be kind to her. How would you feel if your family shoved you away and you had to spend Christmas alone? I'm sure she doesn't show it, but I imagine she must be lonely. I hate the thought of someone being alone, especially at this magical time of the year. It's obviously important to your husband too. Please try and be accommodating. Maybe it won't be as un-enjoyable if you embrace her into the celebration. You make it sound like she is a burden.

Please try.

Accept her offer to bring her own food and do not make a big deal out of it. Be gracious and include her in your dinner, she may have a restricted diet that requires her to eat certain foods.

You are basically saying that she should be penalized and not invited to Christmas dinner because her palette is different than yours. If you were a vegetarian and your in laws were well aware of your dietary choices and your in laws invited you to dinners or family gatherings but they never provided meat free options, you would find it rude and inconsiderate of them. If they knew you were a vegetarian but every dish they cooked contained meat, you would want to bring our own food and you would find their resistance to your bringing your own food to be irritating at best. You would probably feel like they were trying to force you to become a meat eater.

I am guessing you just don't like your sister in law. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her being a picky eater and her offering to bring her own food only makes your job easier. As the hostess, and someone who is well aware that a guest is a picky eater, you should be talking to her and asking her what you should make for her or asking her if she would like to bring her own dish.

Look, I absolutely despise at least 2 of my husbands sisters. They are awful, wretched little parasites whose main goals in life seem to be making my life miserable. But nobody can make me miserable without my consent. They may try all they want, it is kind of entertaining to watch them fail so often. They just resort to making fools of themselves! They are kind of like my own free source of dinner theater!

Just let her come and bring her food if she doesn't want her food then let her eat her nasty food. Ignore her and pretend she's not even there. It would probably make your husband happy or else he's gonna think you have something against his family or something. Just enjoy your holiday and don't let her grudyness get in your way and enjoy yourself. Hapy Holidays!

I'd try not to have her. But if he insists then make her some food and keep her entertained off in a room somewhere. Or shove her onto another relative.

Have her bring her own food. She offered. Your house is not a diner, the christmas meal is what it is.

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My aunt makes it just as hard. We tend to just check on her a lot. Pay attention to everyone else, laugh at the dismal in dispair alone in the kitchen and just make sure to ask her opinion or include her once in a while. It's just a few days. Don't let the gloomy gus ruin your day

as long sa your husbands the one doing her food let her come

i do believe you make it worse on yourself because she seems a annoying person to say the least

its your christmas dont let her destroy it