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Opinions on long distance relationships?
I am 20 years old, and I have recently started a relationship with a guy around last month. We met on a dating site a few months ago, and hung out a bit. We seemed to really hit it off, and get along really well. The only problem- is we are about five hours apart. He lives in the next state over from mine, for college, and even though we have seen each other before, we are only able to see each other once a month because of our school schedules.
We talk every day by text, we talk for about 3-4 hours on the phone a couple times a week, talk on Facebook, and Skype a few times a week as well. Some of my friends have said this is not a "real" relationship, and that I need to find someone who is a little bit closer.
I feel like it is real.. We have met, and we make trips back, and forth to spend a couple days with each other, each month- so I know who he is, and what he does. We contact each other every day, and on a regular basis. How is this not real, or a good relationship? What is your view on long distance relationships- do you like them, or would you ever have one? Would you consider our relationship real, because of the distance? Just curious.. It kind of has me down. Thanks!
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- Anonymous8 years agoFavorite Answer
If you've met and spent time together, that's different from online-only -- I don't think 'relationships' are real if people have never actually spent time together. My wife and I were in an LTR for a year and a half, driving about 300 miles every 2 or 3 weeks to spend a day and a half together. It was rough - but we knew that when she graduated, one or both of us would be moving.
If you have a goal, and you're both okay with the online contact, it might work. It worked for us - we've been together about 13 years, now. But we'd been friends a long time before we fell in love.
The good part about seeing each other once or twice a month was that the few days we did have were like honeymoons.
Do your best, be honest with each other, and see what transpires. The odds are against you, but if you're patient and loyal, you can beat the odds. You DO have a goal in sight--no matter how far away graduation is right now.
Good luck!
- 8 years ago
all i have to say is don't rush things because eventually the long distance will exhaust both of you and you two will start to expect more. my sister and brother in law had a long distance relationship, and he called her everyday; their conversation were only 2-5 minutes long. he visited her 2-3 times a year. this went on for 6 years until he finished his master, then he popped the question and now they are happily married. also, be patience with one another. i say long distance relationship is like college, it can get very boring at times like it's going no where, but if you know it's worth it and you really want it, then be patience and eventually everything will work out.
- 8 years ago
As I'm in a long distance relationship now, It really depends on How y'all feel about each other. Tip #1: Do NOT let your friends get in between your relationships whatsoever. It always ruins it or something goes back around to the other person. Long distance relationships can be awesome, and some can be bad. It just depends on how committed you are to each other.
- 8 years ago
To be honest they really suck. I think after the initial excitement the distance will get old for both of you. It's not to say that you can't do it though. If you guys like each other and eventually love each other enough of course it will work. Trust is another huge part of it.
Source(s): experience - 8 years ago
They suck there hard to keep up, there is no sex, but that doesnt mean you shouldn't try... but it will be hard.
