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Should this forum be required reading before marriage?
What I've learned from this forum over the last six years is that, NONE of the people in these falling relationships thought that their true loves would ever do to them what they've done. None of them believed that he or she would lie, cheat, drink, hit, abuse, or steal from them. Or any of the other dreadful things you read about here. I'm starting to actually believe that before anyone gets married, they should be required to read this board for at least four hours, so that they can see what marriage can do to them. I almost hate to say it, but marriage is looking more and more like a failed concept. The sad thing is, no one would believe it would happen to them. When clearly, eventually, it will!
Call me a cynic but I no longer believe that a long term marriage is possible. Sure there may be some cases of people being married for ten years or more but the odds are squarely against that happening.
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- Sue CLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
Honey, I dare say I KNOW ALL you're referring to. I too tho't I knew it "all", found I knew next to nothing regarding ALL the things that happen to marriages, all the things done in the way of other's lives. BUT, this is a SMALL percent of the world when it comes rite down to it. This category is for the worst of the worst. Unfortunately, we don't read information of the GREAT marriages there actually are. We ONLY see one very SMALL percent of the worse of the worst. I myself have had failed marriages, but also am now in a 22 1/2 yr. happy loving relationship. So, there IS the good, the not so good. I base my ans. on the experiences I've had in hopes of helping those I had experience in/with. If I can help or prevent someone from making the SAME mistakes I've made, I do my very BEST to do just that. It wouldn't hurt for those to read the things that do go on in the world, but IF they are in a good loving relationship, only they know for SURE they will NOT have the things happen we read here. I dare say if there was such a category of folks just writing in who have GOOD marriages, good relationships with no questions involved, it would be far LARGER than this category of mostly negative happenings. Don't even "allow" this category to discourage you from marriage. Honey, it truly IS a very SMALL percent of all the marriages/relationships there actually are...the best to you...:)
- no1adviceLv 78 years ago
Well you half right. Reading this should be mandatory! But many will not listen. Most young people you will see repost things over and over due to wanting to hear what they want to hear. Not really wanting advice. Their parents and family have already told them what we are saying! So now all most want to do is "vent".
I do see alot of good advice on here from many who visit frequently. What I can't understand is some people who post questions that do appear almost daily. Why not just read and learn from others? For example almost daily someone says their parents are getting a divorce. Why not learn from others on here? Or women who don't use any birth control and wonder what to do since the guy has ran off? Duh.
- 8 years ago
Yep.
Before I dropped by this forum, I used be a naive fool who thought these things very very very rarely happen, but boy was I wrong.
" When clearly, eventually, it will! "
It happens to a lot of people, but def not all.